She Told A Guy She Was Dating That She Wanted To Get Married And Have Children Within The Next Few Years, And He Wound Up Bailing On Their Budding Relationship
Have you ever had to end a relationship because you and your partner had different views on marriage and having children?
One woman recently told a guy she was seeing how she wanted to get married and have kids sooner rather than later. Although he seemed interested in marrying her, he eventually ditched her.
She’s 32-years-old and dated a 39-year-old guy for six weeks. During their time together, things were going really well.
“He is genuinely one of the nicest people I’ve ever met, very caring, kind and considerate,” she said.
“He is always offering to help me with ‘manly’ jobs at my apartment; he always holds doors open, pays for dinners, etc. We see each other about three times a week with sleepovers. We have both repeatedly said that it’s weird how comfortable we are with each other so early on.”
However, whenever she was with him, she noticed that he would get uncomfortable whenever she tried to talk about anything serious.
Then, an unexpected run-in with a friend inspired her to try and talk about more serious things with him to see what would happen.
A few nights ago, while she was out to dinner with her date, she ran into a friend who had just been dumped. When her friend asked her date if he had any single guy friends, he told her that most of his friends were “sadly” married with kids.
“Once she’d left, I asked why he hadn’t been married or had kids yet,” she recalled.
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“He blurted out that he wasn’t at that ‘stage’ in his life yet and that marriage had never been something he’d thought about. I asked if he was against marriage and kids completely, and he said no, that he would like kids and doesn’t want to be an old dad, but that he doesn’t think he’s in a space to have kids.”
Due to the nature of their conversation, she felt it was just a good time as any to bring up the fact that she was about to turn 33, had infertility issues, and needed to start making moves to have kids in the next few years.
She told her date that they probably wouldn’t work as a couple if he weren’t prepared to commit and start a family within a few years.
“It wasn’t an attack; I just wanted to state that I’m dating with intent,” she explained.
“I then explained that it’s important to me that I have a baby with someone who is a great father. He said that I’d be a great mom and that he loves how self-sufficient I am. He said I’m the sweetest, kindest woman in the world, and he loves how empathetic I am.”
Later that same evening, she told him she sometimes thinks about traveling to Las Vegas and eloping with someone in one day. He then turned to her and said he’d do that with her the next day.
With everything her date said about her being a great mother and marrying her in Vegas, she had thought she had maybe turned a corner with him and that he may at least start considering committing to her.
However, he hardly reached out to her the following day and didn’t answer her messages. Days later, he finally told her they wanted different things for their futures and likely wouldn’t work out as a couple.
She felt emotional whiplash from this experience. Although her date had mentioned her being ‘wife material’ several times, he still bailed. Her family later told her she probably hit him with the news of wanting kids “too soon.”
Did she speak too soon about wanting kids, or was it for the best?
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