She Told Her Sister Off For Getting Angry At Her For Inheriting Their Late Mom’s Valuable Possessions
Sometimes, families get into disputes after a relative passes away, especially due to having to distribute that relative’s personal items.
It’s standard for the person who cared for that relative during their final days to receive or distribute their belongings, but some may fight that.
One woman quit her job to take care of her sick mom full-time and was left in charge of her belongings when she died. Now, her sister is getting angry with her for how she’s taking care of everything.
She’s 33-years-old, and her mom passed away from esophageal cancer in 2022. When her mom became very ill, she quit her job as a health aid to become her hospice caregiver and moved into her parent’s house.
Unfortunately, she didn’t receive help from her other family members, including her dad and sister.
“She had an incredible hospice team, but they weren’t there every day all day,” she explained.
“I cleaned her up, made sure she had everything she needed, [and] coordinated everything with hospice.”
“My dad dealt with things by burying his head in the TV and ignoring it. The final week of her life, I got only a handful of hours of sleep because I was having to administer her medications every hour. It was all worth it to me [because] she was my best friend in the whole world, but it was extremely traumatic.”
Her sister is 42 but was unable to help with her mom because she has health issues herself, as she’s overweight and almost immobile.
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Although her sister lives minutes away, she hadn’t visited their parents’ house in five years. By the time she did, her mom could hardly speak.
“Before she died, while she was still lucid, my mom told me she wanted me to handle all of her affairs after she passed, l[ike] planning her celebration of life, her cremation, and the distribution of her things,” she said.
“She also said she wanted me to have her wedding ring, diamond necklace [and] earring set, and 2014 Mazda, even though I don’t drive. [She gave it to me] in case I wanted to learn, and if not, she said I could sell it.”
After her mom died, she still had no interest in driving, so she decided to sell the car to her dad’s girlfriend’s granddaughter for $3,000.
When her sister heard this news, she immediately became upset because she felt she and her husband could sell it for more money.
During a heated argument on the phone, her sister told her that their mom would be upset with her for how she’s handling the car.
Her sister also said she didn’t think it was fair that she could handle all her mom’s valuable items while she only got a few sentimental items.
Eventually, she snapped and sent her sister a wordy text, reminding her that she was the only one who took care of their mom and held her hand in her final moments, which was why she got more from her than anyone else.
“I’m not doing this with you,” she texted her sister. “Feel how you want to feel; I really don’t care. I have enough on my plate [and] I don’t have time for pity parties.”
Now, she’s beginning to feel guilty about what she said to her sister. Should she feel bad for telling off her sister, or was it necessary?
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