She’s Disgusted By Her Boyfriend’s Toupée And Can No Longer Envision Spending Her Life With Him Because Of It
For the last four years, this 26-year-old woman has been dating her 25-year-old boyfriend, Mark.
She thinks that she and Mark make a wonderful team, and their relationship as a whole is really quite excellent.
Unfortunately, Mark started going bald at the very young age of 19. By the time she met Mark two years later, he was completely shaving his head to cover up how much hair he was losing.
She never thought Mark’s bald head was an issue, and in fact, she thought Mark looked very handsome with it.
“So we started dating and, through the years, Mark has tried growing his hair, shaving only part of it, trying different hairstyles, etc.,” she explained.
“I’ve always liked his hair and his bald head as well. I genuinely think he’s one of the most handsome men alive.”
“Mark, however, does feel very insecure about his looks and especially about his baldness. So, we both saw some of those “toupée queen” TikToks, and he decided he wanted to get one.”
She was fully supportive of Mark investing in a toupée, even though she didn’t think it would make him magically more attractive.
Mark went out and purchased his toupée, and she got to see it for the very first time this past Sunday.
lunamarina – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
And, she was completely and utterly disgusted seeing Mark’s toupée, for many reasons. The first reason is that the amount of hair on Mark’s toupée is insane.
It’s plentiful, it’s super thick, it’s extremely coarse in texture, and it is super jet black, even though Mark’s own hair is not that color.
The toupée also looks and feels incredibly fake to her, and it does look like a wig, as it doesn’t match Mark’s existing hair in the least.
In time, she believes she can sort of warm up to the new look, even though she absolutely hates the toupée with all of her heart.
The one thing she knows will not get better with time is how disgusted she is by the toupée. Adding to the ick factor is the toupée looks just like her ex’s hair, which she hated with a passion.
She feels superficial, silly, and selfish for her white-hot hatred of Mark’s toupée, and she can’t bear to touch Mark the way she used to while he’s wearing the thing. She used to love touching his face and kissing his forehead, but she can’t do it.
“I love having his head on my chest,” she said. “And now I’m so disgusted, and, I guess, “triggered” by it… I don’t think I can do it.”
“I feel my body tensing up whenever I get close to him. I’ve even actively avoided appearing at all [attractive] to him because I don’t think I could [sleep] with him like this…So, on the other hand, he’s SO happy. He says he finally feels handsome and like himself. He says hair used to be a way for him to express himself.”
“Apparently, everyone in his life (some friends and his mom) has told him that it looks great. Like I don’t want to exaggerate my perspective, but my honest thought was that everyone must have been lying to make him happy. Like, I don’t know how to put it nicely, but it kind of looks like he’s wearing a black plasticky bird’s nest on his head.”
She’s tried to downplay her feelings, and she hasn’t said much in order to avoid being honest with Mark.
She desperately wants Mark to be happy, but she’s awful at lying, and it’s only a matter of time until Mark finds out the truth.
He has already caught on to her not loving it, and he is of the opinion that, eventually, the look will grow on her, and she’ll be fine.
“I can’t tell him that he doesn’t deserve a partner who’s only attracted to him when he feels the least like himself,” she continued.
“I feel awful. I’ve cried about this so many times in the last 24 hours. I just don’t know what to do. My heart is honestly broken, and I keep coming back to an intense feeling of missing my partner even though he’s right there.”
“Like, I don’t know how to say this in a nice way, but two days ago, I was convinced this was meant to be my husband and the father of my children, and now I can’t picture my future with him at all.”
What advice do you have for her?
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