She Wants Her Husband To Block His Female Friend After She Implied Their Engagement Was A Mistake, Called Her A Gold Digger, And Bet Their Marriage Would Fail
This 26-year-old woman and her husband, 27, have been married for two years. Her husband has eight good friends from college; one of them is Kyla, 27.
At the beginning of their relationship, she met everyone in this friend group, and they all seemed nice. In the early stages of dating, she and her husband often got together with his friends.
Since she and her husband are both introverted, she would constantly request that they hang out just the two of them.
Being around his friends so much was exhausting and draining for her, and she noticed that it was tough to socialize with Kyla in particular.
“Kyla always made it a point to tell me how he hangs out with them less after he started dating me. Kyla also had a weird energy around me. If I was with my husband, she would be friendliest with me. However, as soon as he walked away, she acted like I did not exist,” she said.
She and her husband are both neurodivergent, and her husband despises when people try to touch him.
Kyla knew this and would attempt to hug her husband or play with his hair teasingly. At first, she didn’t think Kyla was flirtatious and brushed this behavior off as Kyla just being goofy and trying to irritate her husband. It seemed like Kyla didn’t respect other people’s boundaries.
Over the course of their marriage so far, everything has been smooth sailing for the most part. A couple of weeks ago, she and her husband hosted a party to celebrate their second wedding anniversary.
After most of the other guests left, her husband’s close friends stayed to hang out. They were all drinking and talking, and one of his friends, Jen, was pretty intoxicated.
Andrey Kiselev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Jen told her that her and her husband’s home was amazing, gushing about how she clearly cares for her husband since he has improved so much since she married him.
All of his friends laughed and joked around about how messy and disorganized her husband was before she started dating him.
“Then, Jen pointed at Kyla and said, ‘You better pay up because you had bet that their marriage would not even last for two years.’ Everyone became silent and started changing the topic. I also did not want to spoil the mood and let it go,” she explained.
For the rest of the party, she couldn’t stop thinking about Jen and Kyla’s bet. Once her husband’s friends finally left, she confronted her husband to find out if he’d heard about this bet. According to him, he hadn’t informed any of his friends that he was planning to propose to her.
So, when he took her on vacation to Puerto Rico and proposed, his friends were so shocked when they later posted engagement photos on Instagram.
When they got engaged, they’d been in a relationship for a year. After they returned from Puerto Rico, he got together with his friends, and aside from Kyla, they were so happy for him.
“Kyla started ranting about how he was a fool to propose so quickly, and she felt that I was not the right girl for him. She said some unkind things about me, implying I was a gold-digger. My husband’s family is wealthy, but so is mine. She had said that she bet we would break up within two years if we got married. That was why Jen was taunting her about how happy my husband was with me,” she shared.
After her husband told this story, she was enraged. In her opinion, he should have been upfront about how negative Kyla had always been about their relationship and their marriage.
She questioned him about if he’d ever been in a relationship with Kyla or if anything had ever gone on between the two of them.
In the past, her husband made it clear that he’d never been in a relationship with any of his close friends.
In response, he assured her that he’d never been in a relationship with or slept with Kyla. But he confessed that Kyla had feelings for him during their college years and asked him out several times, but he always kindly rejected her advances.
When she questioned why he never went out with Kyla, he explained that he’d never thought of her as more than a friend.
She accepted that he was telling the truth because she knew he had a particular “‘type'” of woman he was attracted to, considering that she and all the other women he’d dated previously had much in common.
Kyla had nothing in common with her or her husband’s past girlfriends, so it made sense that he never reciprocated her feelings.
Understandably, she’s angry that Kyla said mean things about her and spoke negatively about their marriage.
It was hurtful to know that Kyla was betting for their marriage to fail. During the conversation with her husband, she requested that he keep his communication with Kyla to a minimum from now on, adding that Kyla was no longer welcome in their home. Ideally, she’d prefer that he block Kyla.
Her husband thought this was unfair to Kyla, pointing out that they’d be punishing her for comments she made nearly three years ago.
He defended Kyla, saying that she helped them with wedding planning and has always been happy for them.
In her husband’s view, Kyla doesn’t have a filter and says whatever’s on her mind, so he doesn’t think they should take what she says too seriously.
He suggested that she think things through for a few days so that they could talk more about the issue once she’s less upset.
Her husband doesn’t want to do anything extreme before thinking it over first because he’s concerned that distancing himself from Kyla would affect his relationships with the rest of his close friends.
Upon reflection, she isn’t sure if she’s being overdramatic, but she feels betrayed by Kyla. In her opinion, a good friend wouldn’t gossip about her or bet that her marriage would fail.
She’s furious that her husband hadn’t told her that Kyla had had feelings for him during college or that she spoke ill of their engagement. All she knew was that she never wanted to see Kyla ever again.
What advice would you give her?
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