His Dad Had An Affair With His Stepmom, So He Didn’t Invite Her To His Wedding To Avoid Any Tension, But His Dad Now Doesn’t Want To Attend
If you have divorced parents, you may know the struggle of getting your parents to get along, especially if one is with someone new.
One man recently had to tell his father he didn’t want to invite his stepmom to his very small wedding, and now his dad doesn’t want to go either.
He’s 25 and will be getting married in a very small, low-key courthouse wedding ceremony followed by a nice dinner at a restaurant and a party at his house. There will only be around 15 people in attendance.
His parents, who are in their 50s, have been divorced for 14 years, and they split because his dad was having an affair.
Today, his dad is still with the woman he had an affair with, and he refers to her as his stepmom. He has a 19-year-old sister and is still very close to his mom. Everyone is on different pages with his dad.
“I have a good relationship with my father [and] a cordial relationship with [my stepmom],” he explained.
“My sister has almost no contact with my dad. My mother is cordial with him, but they don’t talk unless it’s about us. There has been a lot of bad blood between him and my grandmother since the divorce, though. The three of them despise my stepmom to different degrees.”
While he believes his mom and sister would be able to suck it up and be civil if his stepmom attended his wedding, he’s been worried about how his grandmother will react. He believes his grandmother would hardly be able to speak if his stepmom is at his wedding; she despises her so much.
“I believe it’s going to be really tense and uncomfortable for everyone,” he said.
Kaspars Grinvalds – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“If I don’t invite my stepmom, I’m afraid it will damage my relationship with her and my dad. I thought about telling my dad that my wife [and I had] a courthouse wedding and no reception, but I didn’t want to lie to him like that. The damages would be huge if he discovered.”
He decided he couldn’t wait any longer and had to talk to his dad during a recent visit about why he wouldn’t want his stepmom at his wedding.
His dad was uncomfortable and couldn’t understand why his grandmother was still holding a grudge after almost 15 years. However, he still congratulated him and told him he understood it was not an easy decision to make.
When it came time to tell his stepmom it would be best if she didn’t attend the wedding, she was very upset but tried to remain understanding. Before leaving his dad and stepmom, he suggested they visit him and his wife for a weekend after the wedding and figured everything would be okay.
But then, a few moments later, his dad revealed that his stepmom was more upset than she had let on, and now he doesn’t feel comfortable attending the wedding without her.
While this wasn’t the response he wanted, at the end of the day, he mostly cared about his future wife being present on their wedding day. However, he does worry about what this will do to his relationship with his dad and stepmom.
Should he feel bad for not inviting his stepmom?
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