She Got Into An Enormous Fight With Her Fiancé After He Said He Wants His Ex-Girlfriend In His Wedding Party

omelnickiy - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
omelnickiy - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual people

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner stayed in touch with their ex or was forced to see their ex on certain occasions because they’re close to their family? 

It can be super uncomfortable, and people on the other side of the relationship often feel forced to make nice with their partner’s ex.

One woman is very upset after finding out her fiancé wants his ex to be in their wedding party because she’s like a member of his family.

She’s 27 and getting ready to marry her 33-year-old fiancé. They’ve been together for four years and have been engaged since last year.

Before she and her fiancé started dating, he was in a long relationship with his childhood friend, Liz. They were together for eight years and had been close since they were kids, as their moms are best friends.

Her fiancé and Liz almost got married but decided to break off their engagement when they realized they were getting married for the wrong reasons.

Since she first started dating her fiancé, she knew Liz would always be a part of his family’s life. Liz’s mom and his mom are still best friends. Liz is very close with his sister and is also in the same circle of friends with her fiancé.

“I don’t have a problem with Liz and her friendship with my fiancé,” she said.

“I actually like her as a person and would consider her a friend. However, there are times when we hang out that I feel left out because of their inside jokes and shared childhood stories. I have always tried to be open-minded about their friendships since he assured me they are only friends, and I trust both of them.”

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However, when she and her fiancé began discussing their wedding plans, she felt he was about to cross a boundary with Liz.

They decided that since they each have friends of the opposite gender, they should have each other’s friends in their wedding party. For instance, her fiancé asked if his sister could be a bridesmaid since she means a lot to him, and since she likes his sister, she agreed.

“When he listed his wedding party, he mentioned Liz,” she recalled.

“I was taken back. I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with having her be in the wedding party. I told him I [was] more than happy to have her attend the ceremony and reception and that she [could] sit with his family and be in the family pictures. However, that wasn’t good enough for him.”

Her fiancé became defensive and told her it was his wedding party and he had a say in who would be in it. She told him that while that’s true, bringing in Liz still isn’t fair, as she isn’t including her high school sweetheart or ex.

As they went back and forth on the matter, she and her fiancé got into a huge fight. He would not let up and insisted on Liz being in the wedding party.

“Out of anger, I told him to choose me or her,” she added.

“If she’s in the wedding party, then I won’t be standing at the altar. He responded by telling me that I was acting crazy and that he was going to stay with his brother until I ‘calm down and be reasonable.’ It has been three days now.”

Even though days had passed without them making up, her fiancé texted her not to apologize but to ask if she was ready to be ‘reasonable’ and approve of his wedding party list. However, she told him the answer was still no, and she was unsure if she could let this go.

Should she allow Liz to be in her wedding or stand her ground?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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