He Overheard His Wife Confessing That She Never Loved Him, And Only Got Married To Him Because She Was Pregnant
15 years ago, this 39-year-old man met his 38-year-old wife, and they got married 12 years ago. Unfortunately, he recently overheard his wife confessing to one of her friends that she does not love him and never did at all.
Apparently, his wife only got married to him because she was pregnant. His wife was hoping that after she had their baby, she could potentially fall in love with him, though it never ended up working out like that.
After his wife’s friend left their home, he instantly confronted his wife about what he heard her say. This led to a very emotional conversation between them, and his wife didn’t deny what she said.
Sadly, it’s true. She’s not in love with him.
“I asked her why she married me then,” he explained. “She said she’d rather marry a man she doesn’t love but who treats her right, with respect, and takes care of her and her children than a man she loves but who is a fool, incompetent, or lazy.”
“I was shocked and hurt. I asked her what she thinks about our marriage, and she said it’s the marriage she always wanted. To our credit, our marriage is really good.”
“Respect is everything, so we never overstep each other’s boundaries, and when we have a problem, we figure it out as a team. She never cheated…or did anything like that because she respects me too much, respects our marriage, and loves our children – her words, not mine. She also said she knows it’s the same on my part.”
He let his wife know that he wants a bit of time to process all of this, and she said he could take as much time as he feels he needs.
She also stated she is not going to leave him, but whatever he chooses to do, she will accept. Honestly, he really does not know what he should do.
Miljan Zivkovic -stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
He is so puzzled and hurt to know his wife isn’t in love with him. He knows his wife has never done anything else in all the years they have been together to cause him pain, but that doesn’t make her confession any less painful.
His wife works hard, is incredibly honest, and is an excellent role model for their children, which also makes him confused about his next steps. He was under the impression their marriage was built on love, but clearly it’s not.
“So I’ve been living a dream marriage with a woman who doesn’t love me one bit,” he said.
“Basically, she settled for me because I was the best option at the time. To her credit, she’s been an amazing wife and mother to our kids (Boy – 9-years-old, Girl – 11-years-old).”
He’s thinking perhaps marriage counseling might help, but that won’t fix the fact that love is only coming from one of them. It won’t magically make his wife fall in love with him.
He loves his wife will his whole heart, and his wife has always known this. He does not want to get divorced from her, as he adores her and their marriage. He also does not want their children to grow up without both of them.
What do you think he should do?
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