His Ex-Girlfriend Still Expects Him To Give Her An Allowance, Even Though She Dumped Him
Sometimes, when you’ve been through a lot with your partner, they can expect you to support them, even if you take a temporary break or breakup.
One man is unsure what to do after his ex-girlfriend, who he shared his finances with, requested that he still give her an allowance even though they’re broken up.
He’s 30 and had been living with his 31-year-old ex-girlfriend for a little over a year, but they were together a bit longer.
They lived through some extremely rough times together and even lived in a car for a while. However, over the past year, they were able to share a place and get their lives together.
“When I got a new job, she indicated that she wanted to go back to college to finish her medical degree,” he said.
“I was fully supportive of this, and we worked out the details of our budget together. We considered the money I was bringing in as ‘our’ money, not mine. This was mutually agreed upon by both of us when we made the budget. I would be responsible for paying for things [like] bills, food, etc. until she graduated. Included in our budget was a small amount each of “spending” money. Essentially, [it was] an allowance for each of us.”
They would typically use their allowance for fun things they could enjoy together or give to one another, like gifts or date nights.
Unfortunately, they began having relationship issues, which he believes were mostly his fault. He was struggling with undiagnosed bipolar disorder and ADHD, which made him quick to anger and caused a lot of issues between him and his girlfriend.
Eventually, his girlfriend decided they should break up.
Jacob Lund – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“While my girlfriend has been supportive and tried her best to help me with these issues, making me take more interest in caring for myself properly, she has hit her limit,” he explained.
“She broke up with me, saying that we need to fix our friendship before we can consider being in a relationship. I do not disagree. Over the last few months, things have been steadily sliding downhill, and I can see the logic of her decision.”
Because his now ex-girlfriend is still in medical school and was heavily reliant on his income, he decided he’d continue to give her money for necessary and important things like her car payment, phone bill, food for her dog, etc.
However, his ex-girlfriend believes she should also receive the extra money she used to get for her allowance.’
“Since all of her necessities are taken care of, I do not feel like it is fair to me to have to continue giving her additional money,” he added.
Should he consider giving his ex-girlfriend extra spending money, or is he already doing enough to support her?
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