Abby Connolly
“I used to be over 300 pounds until I turned 21 and shed off 150 pounds over the course of two years. Trying to be nice, I told [my friend] that while I appreciated her trying to help me, I was not interested but extremely thankful. She immediately went off on me, saying I was shaming her and being fatphobic because she was a larger woman and that it shouldn’t matter and I should see past it all.”
He found his friend’s words to be very hurtful, considering he was a big guy himself for a long time and had to deal with all the social troubles and anxiety that came with it.
It’s not that he is judging his friend’s friend; he just doesn’t want to deal with that kind of lifestyle anymore. Instead, he’d rather be with someone “on the same path” as him.
“I’m sure the friend is nice, but I didn’t say anything in a negative tone or anything rude or condescending,” he added.
“It’s just [my] preference for dating, and it was thrown back in my face. I’m not the most attractive guy there is [and I’m] just pretty average, but I still stand by my preferences no matter what.”
Was he wrong not to give his friend’s date a chance, or was he right to follow his instincts?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
