Her Husband Kissed Another Woman And Now She’s Falling For Their Neighbor, So She’s Curious If An Open Marriage Could Work
Unfortunately, this 35-year-old woman discovered that her 43-year-old husband recently developed feelings for another woman.
Things got messy, and her husband conducted an emotional affair, going on to kiss this other woman.
She was extremely sad to find this all out, especially since she was planning on having a child sometime in the near future.
Her husband hasn’t been loyal to her in a romantic sense, but his loyalty hasn’t wavered in other capacities, and he does support her. That’s the reason why she’s remained with him for a decade, even after finding out about the affair. She admits that’s kind of dysfunctional.
Her husband’s affair partner moved to the other side of the country, so they luckily no longer see one another, but her husband still talks to this woman.
Initially, he denied the affair and lied to her face on multiple occasions until she finally told him she knew the truth.
Right now, her husband’s lies have continued, with him claiming he no longer speaks to his affair partner, which she can prove isn’t the case.
Her husband even went so far as to remake this woman’s resume while helping her get a new job, so there goes his story.
“We have talked a lot about our relationship and what we want, and it seems like we are indecisive,” she explained.
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“We love each other but don’t love our problems. The trust is broken now. I know that I am trying to improve the relationship by doing things he said he wished I did more of because I don’t want to say I didn’t try.”
“Our relationship is good but volatile. I am obviously not perfect, but I hate how he calls me names, puts me down, and criticizes me. I have been held back by him a lot; for example, I can’t have any guy friends.”
After the affair, she was done with her husband controlling who she could be friends with, and she informed him she was going to live her life and try to make new connections.
Then, this January, she started following her male neighbor on social media. They quickly got to chatting and formed a pretty strong bond.
From there, they were texting daily, and she felt confused by where it all was headed, as her neighbor is married and has two children. The vibes were getting far too friendly between them to continue on in an innocent manner.
“Well, I told him about my situation, and he told me that he is in an open, non-monogamous marriage where essentially he dates people exclusively outside of his wife, so there have been times where he has a GF and a wife,” she said.
“I don’t think I have ever met something like that before. I had a lot of questions. His wife is aware of it and does the same as well. I don’t know if he is telling the truth about that. Anyway, I think you can see where this is going.”
“We have hung out for a little this week (3x already), and there is this electricity between us that I haven’t felt in a long time. I am not sure if this feeling was even there when I met my husband, but I don’t really recall because it was so long ago. I know I have had this feeling for 2 other people, and they were my boyfriends before my husband. When I met them, I just kind of knew something was there.”
Her neighbor has been calm, cool, and collected while she’s been sorting out her feelings about her husband and her marriage.
He hasn’t pushed her at all, and she’s appreciative of him giving her some space to work through everything.
Her neighbor added that he’s had a nice time getting to know more about her, which doesn’t make her feel rushed into deciding.
That being said, she can easily see things growing in a romantic direction, as their connection is super intense.
“I have a few options. I just want to be happy. I am tired of not feeling loved,” she continued. “I could keep doing what I am doing, which I don’t love. I am hurting my husband and doing the same bad stuff he is doing to me.”
“I know that things will never end up working out with me and the neighbor. He will stay with his wife, even if I stay with my husband or not. I will probably end up getting hurt in the end, but at least I was chasing love and happiness.”
“I could see if my husband is willing to be in an open marriage, too. I know he won’t, though. He just wants his cake and to eat it, too.”
Her final option is leaving her husband, but that feels morally wrong to her and against her values. But, she is exhausted from never prioritizing her own happiness in life.
She’s starting to feel like if her husband can cheat, she should be allowed to as well, and she hates that.
She can’t help but think she never would be in this situation if her husband had just remained faithful to her in the first place.
What advice do you have for her?
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