His Children Keep Photos Of His Late Wife Around Their Home, But Once He Got Remarried, His New In-Laws Started Giving His Kids Grief And Calling Them “Inconsiderate” For Having The Pictures In Common Areas

For many people, a therapeutic way to remember their departed loved ones and work through their grief is to keep photos of them around the house.
If anyone has a problem with that, it can make you feel quite uncomfortable.
One man recently upset his in-laws after shutting them down because they questioned why he and his kids kept a few photos of his late wife in their house.
He’s 46 and has two children, ages 13 and 10. His late wife, their mom, died in a car accident five years ago. While he was still married to his late wife at the time of her death, for the last three years of her life, they were not on good terms and had their fair share of problems.
In fact, he and his late wife were practically separated but continued to live in the same house and act as if everything was fine for the sake of their kids.
“Both of us came from divorced families and what I consider broken homes because of how badly our parents handled the divorces,” he said.
“We didn’t want that for the kids. We feared we couldn’t do better. The end result was us hating each other. I regret that now. After she died, I was determined to let go of all that hate and to make sure the kids knew they were loved by both [of their] parents.”
He kept most of his late wife’s belongings and, over the years, has let his kids take charge of what they want to keep around and what they can let go of. They used to have several photos of her and the kids hanging up in the house’s common areas but narrowed it down to two.
“The rest are either in their room or stored for them with the rest of her stuff,” he explained.

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“My kids love and miss their mom so much and it brings them comfort to [keep] her photos out. I make sure they can always talk about her or ask questions.”
He remarried last year, and his current wife has never had a problem with the tributing photos to his late wife, as he made it clear how important they were to his kids. However, his new in-laws are a different story.
On a recent visit to his home, his in-laws began questioning his kids as to why they kept photos up of their mom now that their dad has remarried.
When the kids innocently explained that they liked keeping reminders of their mom throughout the house, his in-laws said the photos were “inconsiderate” and should not be kept in the common areas for everyone to see.
“I stepped in and shut them down,” he recalled.
“I told them that this is still my children’s home, and part of that is displaying photos of their mom in their home where they can be seen. I told them it did not need to be discussed more. The following day, my in-laws said I had no reason to be so rude, and I had an unhealthy attachment to keeping their mom present in their lives [although] she is dead.”
While his in-laws think he overreacted to their questions, he thinks they overreacted to the photos.
What would you have done if you were in his position?
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