His Dad’s New Wife Is Jealous That He’s Sharing Old Photos Of His Mom On Social Media
Nine years ago, this 17-year-old guy sadly lost his mom. He does have two younger siblings, twins, but they don’t really remember their mom as well as he does.
Two years after his mom’s passing, his dad met his new wife Jen. Jen moved in with them later on, and when she did, she made them take down all the photos of their mom that they had up in their house.
“We were allowed one photo that couldn’t be easily seen in each of our bedrooms,” he explained.
“But it had to blend in so Jen wouldn’t see the photos when our doors were open (a rule in Dad’s house). We hated it.”
“I always felt like Dad took away our home to make it Jen’s home. I don’t see it the same way. But then again I don’t feel like I live with “parents” I feel like I live with a sort of parent who changed badly when mom died and the spouse he met afterward who really isn’t someone I’ll ever care much about.”
The only upside he sees is that he still has been allowed to have a connection with his mom’s family. His mom’s parents have always been there to babysit them as needed, and occasionally, they would stay with them for a couple days at a time if his dad and Jen went on vacation.
Even before his mom passed away, his grandparents were a constant in his life. The fact that his dad didn’t force him to give up a relationship with his grandparents is the one of the sole reasons he doesn’t hate him completely.
He really is upset with his dad for prioritizing Jen’s needs above the needs of him and his siblings.
Now, his grandparents and his aunts still have tons of photos of his mom in their homes. They even have some wedding photos of his dad and mom.
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When Jen found out about the photos, she got upset and even tried to demand that his aunt take the photos down.
Jen insisted it was not “healthy” for him and his siblings to see pictures of their mom all over the place. His aunt informed Jen to mind her own business, and that was it.
Recently, he’s found solace in looking at photos of his mom on social media and sharing things about their family.
They used to be a family, but he says they pretty much lost their mom and their dad. Their dad has never been the same after he met Jen.
Jen has since found out about him posting photos of his mom on social media, and she is irritated by it.
“I know it bothers Jen, which makes me love doing it even more,” he said. “I now only use it when I’m with my maternal family and I sign out when going to Dad’s so Jen can’t make me take it down.”
“But I triggered her last week and she’s been [mad] ever since. I shared three photos of my family and talked about my parents and how many happy memories I have of when we were a family. Jen wasn’t mentioned and I shared no photo of her at all. This bothered her and the fact I focused so much on my mom.”
“She told me to stop posting photos of mom and to take down the family post. She told me I’m disobeying her and my dad by posting them. She got Dad involved and he asked me if I’d take them down and I told him no. He left it there but Jen said I’m posting them to spite her and that’s wrong. She told me she deserves more respect than that. Also, this jealousy from Jen is more about her not liking that dad lost mom than about my siblings and me.”
He’s left wondering if it is wrong of him to be sharing photos of his mom on social media since Jen can’t stop him.
What do you think?
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