She Canceled Her Gender Reveal Party Because She Knows Her Husband Will Be Upset They’re Having A Daughter
Have you ever watched videos from peoples’ gender reveal parties and cringed when one or both of the parents seemed disappointed in the gender of their upcoming baby?
At that point, you almost want to ask them, “Why did you bother having a gender reveal party?”
One woman recently canceled her gender reveal party because she knew there was a good chance her husband would react poorly if they found out they weren’t having another boy.
She’s 37, and her husband is 43-years-old. They have a nine-year-old son, and she’s pregnant with their second child.
The birth of their son came with some challenges, even though her husband was extremely thrilled to have a boy. She struggled to feel back to normal after giving birth, which put a strain on her marriage since her husband wasn’t very sympathetic to that.
Her husband was less interested in this second baby and pregnancy from the start. In fact, he told her that she could go to the doctor by herself, find out the baby’s gender, and not tell him. She found out they were having a daughter, which she knew would disappoint her husband.
Still, she wanted the birth of their second child to be different, and to get in a celebratory mood, she planned a gender reveal party. She and her husband booked a venue, hired a photographer, bought decorations, etc.
However, she quickly started feeling anxious when she realized there was a good chance her husband would be outwardly upset when he found out they were not having another boy.
“My husband is more concerned about the reputation effect as he grew up affluent, has a very high-paying job, and also a stake in a family business,” she explained.
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“I can tell that despite us already having a boy who he absolutely adores, he desperately wants our second child, who we expect to be our last, to be a boy. I went into planning this reveal party rationalizing that gender disappointment is okay, but I’ve come to realize that there is wishing you’re having a son, and then there’s fixating on not having a daughter even more than wanting another son. My husband falls into the second category.”
She believes her son’s upbringing, which included his dad often acting controlling around his mom and growing up around a male-centered family business, affected his desire only to have sons as a father.
As time passed and the day of the party grew closer, she could tell her husband had an idea that the baby was a girl, as she didn’t have the best poker face.
“I’d be fine with a reveal where the guests are the ones being surprised, but it’s in a week, and with each day, my husband grows more withdrawn, and he’s not the type who can fake happiness and often tries to leave and pull me away with him when he’s really upset,” she added.
“I decided to pull the plug. Again, he’s not mad about the money, yet he’s angry that we’re doing this to our family and friends and what this may say about him.”
Was she wrong to cancel her gender reveal party in fear of her husband’s reaction, or should she have hosted one despite him?
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