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He added that he feels strange that they have been together throughout their 20s, and she’s the only real relationship he has been in.
He pointed out never having “enough time to be single,” before diving into the fact that he only proposed to her after feeling pressured by society.
“He says I’m perfect, and he loves me, and he just wishes that we had met 5 years later so he would’ve had that time to be on his own,” she said.
“I said those are all valid feelings, but what are the options here? It’s okay to mourn the past, but we are already married. He said he had some doubts before the wedding but felt it was already too late as so many people had money in it. I was so excited about it, and he didn’t want to crush my dreams.”
They both acknowledge that her husband should have made his feelings known prior to the wedding, but you can’t change the past.
It’s been an entire month so far of them emotionally talking about her husband’s desire to be single so soon after they walked down the aisle.
They have attempted counseling together and separately, and she even spent several weeks staying outside of the home.
After she returned home, her husband asked if they could take a break and stay single for the next few months before reevaluating.
“I was completely shocked by this and told him that I don’t believe in that,” she added. “We either figure it out together, or we are broken up for good.”
“I asked if there is anything else we can do within the relationship to try to get him to a better mental state, and he said he didn’t think so. He really feels the only option is for us to not be together right now.”
“I am completely devastated and blindsided by this. I think he is going through some sort of “grass is greener syndrome” where he’s wondering what else is out there and mourning not being single for longer. But if he does end up going on dates and realizing that it’s not as good as he thought, I don’t want him to think that I will be waiting on the sidelines as a safety net.”
