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She’s Bailing On Her Brother’s Wedding After Finding Out Her High School Bullies Are Going

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Her Brother Is Getting Married Soon

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A young woman’s brother is getting married soon, and it turns out his fiancée went to the exact same high school that she did.

Back In High School She Had No Friends

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The thing is, though, she didn’t have a single friend back in high school because she was relentlessly bullied.

She Suffered From Being Terribly Bullied


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She ended up suffering from anxiety and depression due to all the bullying, and the way she moved on from all of that was to cut all contact with the people she went to high school with.

Her Brother’s Fiancée Was In The Circle Of Bullies

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Now, her brother’s fiancée actually was part of the mean girl circle that really was the worst to her in high school.

Her Brother’s Fiancée Was More Of A Follower Than A Leader

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Her brother’s fiancée was more of a group follower, and although she never bullied this poor woman herself, she did laugh when the other girls did.

When Her Brother Began Dating His Fiancée, She Was Upset

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When her brother started dating this girl, she was initially very upset because of all the terrible feelings it brought up.

Her Brother’s Fiancée Laughed At Her When She Tried To Address The Bullying

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She has tried to bring up a few of the bullying things to her brother’s fiancée, who merely laughs and claims to not remember anything or brushes everything off as being young and dumb.

She Has Been Able To Forgive Her Brother’s Fiancée

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She finally was able to move on and forgive her brother’s fiancée for everything, but it took an immense amount of work on herself to get there.

Her Brother Proposed, Then Asked Her To Be His Best Woman

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After her brother had proposed, he asked her to be his best woman at his wedding. She, of course, said yes, and she even generously offered to help plan the wedding.

But Then She Found Out Her High School Bullies Were Invited To The Bachelorette Party

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Her brother’s fiancée accepted her help with the planning process, and everything had gone great up until the bride-to-be said she was inviting the girls who bullied her in high school to the bachelorette party.

Anxiety Came Rushing Back To Her

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“I immediately felt the old anxiety come back and asked her if they will be invited to the wedding too,” she said.

Then She Found Out Her Bullies Are Also Coming To The Wedding

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Her brother’s fiancée explained that they would be coming to the wedding too, and she felt crushed.

She Thought A Lot About What To Do

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After a lot of consideration, she feels that she cannot go to the wedding so long as her high school bullies are going too.

She Can’t Deal With These Mean Girls

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Since her brother’s fiancée never did any kind of direct damage to her, she was able to get over that, but the girls that did have a hand in torturing her? That’s a whole other story.

She’s Afraid Of Having A Panic Attack Or Falling Back Into A Deep Depression

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She’s afraid attending a wedding along with her former bullies will cause a panic attack or force her to fall back into depression.

She Told Her Brother She Can’t Be His Best Woman After All

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It really is her mental health and well-being at stake here, so she told her brother she has to bail on being his best woman.

She Then Told Him She’s Not Even Coming To His Wedding

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Her brother is upset with her for not being part of the wedding anymore and for also not being able to attend.

He Called Her Selfish For Skipping Out

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He tried to tell her she was being selfish and that she was just trying to come up with an excuse to not accept his fiancée.

He Thinks She Needs To Move On From High School

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“He also told me I should move on from whatever happened in high school, but even if I try to do that, a high-stress event like his wedding would be the worst time to test if “moving on” works,” she mentioned.

She Believes Her Brother Is Just Mad She’s Not Going To Be There For His Special Day

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She genuinely doesn’t believe her brother or his fiancée are bad people, and she thinks her brother acted this way towards her because he wants her to be there for his special day.

Her Brother Still Says He’s Going To Save Her A Seat At The Wedding

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Her brother has agreed to let things go for the time being and give her space, but he did point out he will be saving her a seat at the wedding.

In Case She Does Change Her Mind And End Up Attending

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How would you deal with this?

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