The Guy She’s Been Dating Slept With Another Girl Four Days Before She Moved To His City
Back in November, this woman met a guy on a dating app when she was visiting a different city for a conference.
She figured things would end up being more like a two-night stand kind of deal between them, but when she flew back home 1,600 miles away from him, she was surprised he kept on texting her.
“I was confused and apprehensive because he knew I lived so far away,” she explained. “He asked me to spend New Year’s with him in his city and even offered to pay for some of my flights.”
She figured it couldn’t hurt, so she flew out there to see him. From there, she invited him to come visit her, and he took her up on that in January.
This February, March, and April, she booked flights to spend time with him in his city, and she says she actually never caught any feelings for him until her February visit.
At the beginning of their time together, they agreed to be exclusive while they were in person, but they tabled a conversation about exclusivity on a longer timeline.
She decided to move to his city for several reasons (aside from him), and they wanted to wait and see how things progressed after her move.
He hesitated to fully commit, but they haven’t slept with anyone else in the last five months except for one another.
When she visited him in April, they vowed not to sleep with anyone from that point on until she moved since she was going to be there in a month, and he also wanted to talk about having kids in that same exact conversation.
Nick Starichenko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“It didn’t make sense to me for us to sleep with other people when the distance gap would be closing so soon and right after having such a big conversation like having kids,” she said.
“He agreed that night that we wouldn’t sleep with anyone else in between that time. I was arriving in the city & to stay with him on Tuesday, and he called me Sunday saying he slept with someone else on Friday.”
“He slept with someone else four days before I get to the city, four days before I am supposed to stay with him for the next 9 days while I finish getting my own apartment set up.”
He claims he had too much to drink while out celebrating a promotion with his friends, and it slipped his mind that they agreed to be exclusive.
He promises he’s still interested in her and actually regrets what he did. He wishes he could take it back and admits to feeling terrible.
However, adding to the confusion, he maintains he does not recall their latest conversation about exclusivity and that it was blurry to him.
“Neither of us had slept with anyone but each other in 5 months while we were 1,600 miles away, and he broke that four days before the distance gap was closed,” she continued.
“It’s over between us now. I feel like I was cheated on and discarded as soon as he got a taste of the high life after his promotion. I was the one who was there for him in any way I could be while he worked towards this promotion.”
“I was excited to celebrate him getting promoted and me moving to the city, and us finally being able to give it a real shot, and he celebrates by [sleeping] with someone else four days before I get there.”
She’s left wondering if it was silly of her to think he would stick to their plan of exclusivity before she made her move.
She’s also curious if she even has a right to feel so incredibly hurt by him sleeping with another girl just four days before her arrival.
She suspects he may have sabotaged what they have together after getting cold feet, but it’s hard to tell for sure.
What advice do you have for her?
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