His Wife Confessed She Had A One-Night Stand Last Weekend

FotoAndalucia - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
FotoAndalucia - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

Nine years ago, this 32-year-old man started dating his 30-year-old wife Kate, and four years ago, they got married.

He characterizes their marriage as supportive, incredible, and full of love. He and Kate communicate well, rarely disagree, and make time to have a strong physical connection.

The topic of cheating has come up in the past, and he made it crystal clear to Kate that if she ever cheated on him, he would leave her.

Last weekend, Kate went to visit her family, which she typically does. On Friday evening, before Kate left, they got into a little tiff about organizing the house, so he didn’t speak to her much at all on Saturday.

However, he knew she was headed out to a bar that night to meet up with her friends, and he had no reason not to trust Kate’s intentions.

Prior to falling asleep on Saturday, he texted Kate, saying he wished she was having a great evening with her friends.

On Sunday morning, he was surprised to wake up to a missed call from Kate. She had tried to call him at 4 a.m.

He called her back to see if she was alright, but she didn’t pick up the phone. Several hours went by and he attempted to call Kate a couple more times without a response.

Finally, she reached out to say everything was ok, and she was planning on driving home shortly. When Kate got home, she looked like a disaster.

FotoAndalucia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“She had clearly been crying, was not wearing any makeup (unusual for her), and looked like a shell of a person,” he explained.

“I knew right away something was wrong, but she wouldn’t let me hug her and would barely speak. I sat her down on the couch and made her some tea. I gently encouraged her to tell me what was wrong, and she burst into uncontrollable tears for at least 10 minutes while I was trying to comfort her.”

“She then proceeded to tell me, stopping every few words, that she had slept with someone last night after the bar. At that moment, something in my brain broke. I can’t describe it any other way.”

Kate did have a couple of drinks that night, but she was fully aware that she was cheating on him with this random man. It was absolutely consensual from Kate’s account.

He instantly left the house, hopped into his car, and drove to a local park, where he spent an hour just walking around.

Kate relentlessly called him, but he shut his phone off. Upon arriving back at their house, he went to the garage, got two suitcases, and tossed some of Kate’s clothing in there before dropping them by the front door.

He found Kate on the living room floor in the fetal position, sobbing her eyes out. He phoned up Kate’s best friend, said Kate needed a ride as well as somewhere to stay, and mentioned Kate would fill her in on what was going down.

“I told Kate I was leaving for an hour and that her friend was coming to pick her up. She grabbed onto my legs, trying to stop me from leaving,” he added.

Kate left with the suitcases and kept trying to get him on the phone to speak to her. Feeling a bit more clear on Monday, he picked up one of Kate’s dozens of phone calls and asked her to email him a detailed account of her one-night stand.

He promised Kate that if she left any details out of the email, he would never reconcile with her. Monday night, Kate sent the email, but he can’t bring himself to read it.

“Since then, everyone has been trying to contact me, but I have just been working, exercising, and sleeping,” he continued.

“One of her friends turned up at my house with an attitude demanding an explanation; I told her to speak to Kate and closed the door in her face. I have also been speaking to divorce lawyers, have moved money into separate accounts, and blocked Kate and all of her friends on everything.”

“Everything I have done since I found out seems like I have been on autopilot. I don’t feel angry, upset, or overly emotional. Just numb. Kate posted a note through the door yesterday asking me to meet tomorrow, but I’m conflicted.”

He feels robotic, and he’s not sure how to bring himself out of this fog. He’s left wondering if it’s worth meeting up with Kate and hearing her out.

He’s questioning if that will change things for him and if there’s any sense in attempting to reconcile with Kate.

What advice do you have for him?

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