His Wife Really Wants To Have Another Baby, But He Struggled A Lot When Their Son Was Born And Still Doubts His Abilities As A Father

This 28-year-old man is currently the father of his 3-year-old son and the stepfather to his 8-year-old stepdaughter. However, he never actually intended to have his son.
Rather, the pregnancy was unplanned, and when he found out that his now 32-year-old wife was pregnant, he didn’t want her to keep the baby.
However, she refused, and they wound up having their son together. Immediately after his child was born, he struggled a lot throughout the first year, too.
“I felt a lot of resentment and had a hard time bonding with him. It got so bad that I sought therapy, which helped me work through my issues,” he recalled.
“Now, three years later, I feel much better and have a good relationship with my son and stepdaughter.”
While things have drastically improved, though, his wife recently hit him with a tall order. Apparently, she claimed that she wanted to have another baby because she wanted a big family and believed one more child would complete their family.
However, according to him, he’s made it crystal clear that he does not want anymore kids.
“I still sometimes have doubts about my abilities as a father and fear going back to the place I was in,” he admitted.
Well, despite that, his wife won’t let the idea go and keeps trying to convince him to have another baby. She thinks that he will be better prepared this time. Plus, she claimed that, since he’s already a father to two children, he can do it and should give a third a chance.

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It’s also crucial to note that since his wife currently works remotely, she spends the most time with their children. Whenever he’s available, he takes over the chores and cares for their kids – which works for their family right now.
He also realizes that adding one more kid to the mix probably wouldn’t make that big of a difference. Nonetheless, the idea still seriously frightens him.
“I feel like my reasons for not wanting another child are valid, and based on my past experiences, I don’t want to risk my mental health,” he vented.
Nonetheless, his wife is “adamant” about this, and now, he’s unsure if he’s being too insecure.
So, he has been left wondering if not wanting another baby with his wife is justified or not.
Can you understand why his wife wants another baby? At the same time, are his feelings valid? How do you suggest he handles this tough situation?
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