She Wants To Send Her Three Mentally Disabled Children To Live With Their Dad Since She Can’t Deal

This woman is 36 and has four children from her first marriage. Six years ago, she got divorced from the father of those four kids, and she deeply regrets even having children with him in the first place.
Back when she had her children, she was happy about it, but then they grew up to all be exactly like their terrible dad.
Her ex has ADHD, and his mom is severely mentally ill, so she suspects things run in that side of the family, and that’s why her kids are struggling.
Her oldest son is 18 and has Autism as well as Aspergers. He loves to play video games but goes nuclear and gets violent when he doesn’t do well with them.
He has gotten physical with her before, and she’s terrified of him and his behavior. Her ex refuses to help get him a counselor and thinks his violence over video games isn’t worrisome. Sometimes, her son slams the walls of his bedroom so hard that he creates holes in them.
Her second child is a 15-year-old daughter with a low IQ coupled with a learning disability. Her daughter will not clean up her bedroom and is a complete slob.
Her daughter also steals everything and anything from her, like snacks, makeup, clothes, and jewelry, so she keeps things locked up.
“She causes trouble at school and with boys,” she explained. “She has been to a mental hospital for how she’s spoken to a school counselor, and she’s had us investigated because she does terrible crap on her phone. She has an IEP. But she sees no value in school.”
“My 11-year-old has ADHD. She doesn’t stop talking she can’t sit still. She is sweeter and the easiest to get along with. I am thankful for her, except she can have her streaks, but she’s tolerable. She doesn’t do much bad, but she can overeat if she is bored, so I have to watch everything I keep in the home as she’s in the 98th percentile for her height and weight.”

Claudia Hi – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“This is manageable, and she enjoys sports. If it weren’t for her, this would be an utter purgatory, and I feel bad for her. Her older sister is very abusive to her and hits her and screams obscenely at her. Now, she is immature for her age and can draw on herself and on the walls, etc…but she has a chance. I have her on a 504 plan at school.”
The last child she had with her ex is her 9-year-old, who has ADHD, Autism, and a speech impairment. While he’s high functioning, today at the doctor’s office, he started biting himself over a tiny change in his routine.
He’s exceptionally hard to deal with, especially since he’s constantly trying to run away from home while saying everyone hates him.
He does tend to get violent and break items. She characterizes him as unstable, difficult, and highly destructive.
Next year, he’s finally going to get into a special education program at school, which she thinks will help him, but he’s very overwhelming for her to deal with.
Six years ago, before she could tell her children had a lot of issues, she got married and decided to have kids with her new husband.
She has three kids with her husband, and they are five, three, and a newborn. She doesn’t want her little kids to have to grow up in the mess of her mentally ill older kids.
Her 9-year-old tries to harm her 5-year-old, and her two teens intimidate the little kids. Her oldest also calls her newborn awful names.
Her ex does absolutely nothing to help her with his problematic kids, so she wants to pack three of them up and send them to live with him.
She and her husband have to do everything for her oldest kids, and they constantly run around between therapists and doctors with all of them.
“I want to send the father his 3 children. I’ll keep my 11-year-old,” she said. “I want to send him the other ones, especially his 9-year-old son with Autism.”
“I can’t handle him…and I feel like I’m hurting my other kids and their lives and development by all of the mental illness the other kids have.”
Her youngest kids have no disabilities; she’s positive about that. Her little kids and oldest ones are so different it’s like night and day to her.
She realizes that the four kids she had with her ex were never normal at all now that she has a comparison to them.
While she feels awful for sending three of her kids away to live with her ex, she feels even worse that her youngest children will have to grow up to live in this nightmare of a life.
“Some days, my husband and I can’t even work. We are so wound up in doctors for these other kids,” she continued.
“We have become slaves in a way to their care and constant maintenance. They do not clean and ruin and destroy my home to the point I’ve gotten rid of about everything besides very basic things. It’s no way to live.”
“I know I’m terrible for wanting to leave and to send them off to their dad for good. But I can’t live like this much longer I can’t hold it together.”
What advice do you have for her?
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