He’s Divorcing His Wife After She Said They Could Raise Her Affair Baby Together For A Fresh Start

LIGHTFIELD STUDIOS  - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
LIGHTFIELD STUDIOS - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This man has a job that requires him to work outside of the country, and he’s spent the last seven months abroad.

During his time away from home, his wife, whom he’s been married to for four years now, started an emotional affair with a guy she met through the gym she goes to.

He thought his marriage was great, and while he admits he and his wife have experienced highs and lows like everyone else, he never anticipated that she would cheat on him.

His wife sent a lot of steamy messages to her affair partner, but she promised things never got physical.

“She admitted that she enjoyed the attention and kept teasing him, but she swore she never crossed the line into physical cheating,” he explained.

One evening, his wife went out with some of her friends, including her affair partner. His wife claims her affair partner drugged and assaulted her.

His wife revealed all of this to him on a phone call, so he quickly rushed home to be by her side. His wife said she had no interest in going to the police about what happened since she was terrified and didn’t want to go through any legal proceedings.

The thing is, he thinks his wife is lying to his face and that her emotional cheating escalated to something physical, so she’s trying to cover her tracks with a wild story.

“I don’t believe her,” he said. “There was enough in her texts to him to see she wanted something physical, and there were flirty texts between them after the supposed incident happened as well.”

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“Instead, she wants to be focused on the pregnancy and wants to keep the baby. She told me that she saw the baby as a blessing, a way to start fresh, and that she wanted us to raise it together.”

“I was furious. I told her there was no way I was going to raise another man’s child, especially one conceived under such circumstances. I felt like I was being punished for something I had no control over. We argued heavily, and I ended up starting the divorce process. I couldn’t see any way to move past the affair and the fact that she wanted to keep the baby.”

What’s making this crazy situation even worse is that all of his friends have turned their backs on him.

They all believe he’s a terrible human being for leaving his wife while she’s dealing with trauma. They all insist he should be supporting her instead of acting in a selfish way.

He doesn’t care what his friends have to say, though their words have made his situation feel a whole lot harder.

“I don’t care. She was cheating on me before the “assault” happened,” he added. “I consider emotional cheating just as bad as physical cheating, and I couldn’t see myself staying with her after everything that happened.”

“It’s been 6 months, and she’s been constantly trying to contact me, begging me to come back and talk things through. I refuse to speak with her directly and only respond through my lawyer, which causes her additional issues.”

The court ordered a paternity test, and he is not the father of his wife’s baby. He is so upset that it’s taking a year for him to finish the divorce process. He wants to simply protect himself and move on. He does have to pay his wife alimony as he makes more money than she does, but he feels relieved he won’t be required to pay child support for a child he didn’t father.

He thinks his life couldn’t get any worse than it already is. He feels betrayed by his wife, the one person he always believed he could trust, and he feels tossed out like trash by his friends, who can’t see things from his side.

What advice do you have for him?

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