His Ex-Girlfriend Slept With His Friend After Dumping Him, But Now She Wants To Start Dating Again
About eight months ago, this 42-year-old man’s 37-year-old girlfriend left him after they dated for quite some time.
She wouldn’t discuss her reasons for breaking up with him, which made the ending even more difficult.
He was upset and sad as he pictured spending his life with her. While he didn’t have closure, he still did his best to deal with the breakup in the healthiest way possible.
He spent time with his loved ones, went to the gym, started therapy, and learned some new skills.
He’s just enjoying things, and he hasn’t attempted to go on any dates or meet new women in light of his ex-girlfriend exiting his life.
One of the most successful ways he coped with the breakup was by talking it through with his 40-year-old close friend.
His friend knows his now ex-girlfriend, but they weren’t friendly. Every few weeks, he and his friend would grab dinner and talk late into the night about his failed relationship.
“I felt like he really cared, and he would ask good questions,” he explained. “It felt like he was really trying to understand me and the relationship and maybe where it went wrong.”
His friend gave him excellent advice and truly helped him to feel better about the situation. Three weeks ago, his ex reached out after not speaking to him at all for the last four months.
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She said she was interested in reconnecting and seeing where their relationship goes; to be fair, she is interested in dating him again.
While he mentioned to his ex that he was open to chatting, they needed to sit down and have some tough discussions. Obviously, there is a lot between them that is unresolved, and there’s no place for her in his life if they can’t work through that.
“In one of our conversations this past weekend, she told me she needed to tell me something,” he said.
“Turns out, my friend was using all the information I was giving him and started talking to my ex. She said she was really sad in January and February, and he said all the right things and was really nice to her.”
Then, his ex hooked up with his friend in April. It was a one time thing, and he was aware his friend saw his ex, but his friend never told him the honest details about that encounter.
Since finding out the truth from his ex, he feels torn. On one hand, he cannot be friends with his friend anymore after learning that he slept with his ex.
His friend stabbed him in the back and used his ex. As for his ex, there’s no way he can bring himself to be physical or romantic with her now.
“I don’t trust her judgment,” he added. “I do care about her and am open to a friendship, but my heart has mostly moved on.”
“Part of me feels like I should just wish her the best and be done with both of them. Part of me is confused because I feel like I should be upset, but I don’t actually feel that upset with her about this, and I am fine to continue communicating with her.”
“I want advice from other’s perspective. What would you do and why? Do I bring it up with my friend at all, or just leave it alone and move on?”
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