She Asked Her Sister To Be A Bridesmaid, But Then Forced Her Out Of The Wedding Party Due To Her Weight

Bre Avery Zacharski |

Jul 10, 2024

This Woman Asked Her Older Sister To Be A Bridesmaid

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A 25-year-old woman invited her 28-year-old sister Julia to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, but then she forced her out of the wedding party due to her weight.

Her Sister Has Always Been Overweight

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This bride explained that her older sister Julia was always overweight as a child, while she and the rest of their 3 sisters were on the petite side.

Their Mom Tried To Put Her Sister On A Diet

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She tried to say that nobody in their family ever made fun of Julia about her weight, but their mom did step in and try to put her on a diet multiple times for “health reasons.”

Her Sister Then Ended Up In The Hospital

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By the time Julia was 18, she had developed such a severe eating disorder that she landed in the hospital.

Her Sister Has Struggled Ever Since

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Since then, Julia has spent the past 10 years trying to recover from her eating disorder. She did get treatment, but she has recovered, then relapsed multiple times.

Recently, Her Sister Seemed To Be Doing Well

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At the beginning of last year, Julia appeared to be in recovery, and so this bride asked if she would like to be part of her wedding.

She Thought Her Sister Could Handle Being A Bridesmaid

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“I was hopeful she could keep it together and felt okay about asking her to be a bridesmaid at that point,” the bride said.

Over The Holidays, Her Sister Gained 20 Pounds

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When she saw Julia again over the holidays, Julia had put a lot of weight on (the bride estimates 20 pounds).

This Usually Indicates Her Sister Relapsing

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Normally, after Julia gains weight, she relapses, so the bride pointed out two likely scenarios.

She Suspects This Is What Will Happen To Her Sister

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“The first is that she relapses and loses all the weight, in which case she might not even show up for the wedding (she’s missed big family events because of being in residential treatment before), or maybe even worse, she’ll continue to gain weight, in which case things like dress fittings could be a nightmare for her body image,” the bride continued.

It Didn’t Make Sense To Have Her Sister Be A Bridesmaid Anymore

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“In either scenario, I think it makes more sense for her not to be a bridesmaid. That way, she can wear whatever she wants, be skinny or fat, show up or not, and it won’t affect the day as a whole.”

She Texted Her Sister To See If She Was Alright

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The bride ended up texting Julia to see if she was alright, but that wasn’t honestly the real reason behind her text.

But She Wasn’t Truly Concerned About Her Sister

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She was more concerned with her own wedding and keeping up appearances for her special day.

She Feels Entitled To One Day That Isn’t All About Her Sister

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She added that she thinks she is entitled to have one single day of her life that doesn’t revolve around Julia.

Her Sister Admitted To Struggling With Her Weight

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When Julia replied, she admitted she was struggling with her body image and the weight she had gained.

So She Texted Her Sister She Was Out Of The Bridal Party

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The bride asked her over text to no longer be part of her wedding.

She Tried To Be Kind In The Text

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“I kindly asked her to step down from being a bridesmaid, explaining that it was for her own good and I was only doing this because I cared about her,” the bride explained.

But She Upset Her Sister

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Julia was clearly upset by this, but she did what her sister asked of her. She agreed to no longer be a bridesmaid.

Then, Their Dad Got Invovled

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Their dad ended up getting involved after this exchange over text, and he told the bride that was she did absolutely broke Julia’s heart, even though Julia kept her feelings from the bride.

And This Is What Their Mom Thinks

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Weirdly enough, their mom and their other sisters think Julia should not participate as a bridesmaid.

She Argued Her Sister Was Always Their Dad’s Favorite

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The bride tried to play things off by saying Julia has always been their dad’s favorite child before mentioning that her own fiancé thinks she is a terrible person for what she did.

But Her Fiancé Is Upset With Her

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Her fiancé also insisted she never should have confronted Julia about her weight, let alone handle things in the way that she did.

Her Sister Is Now Refusing To Talk About It

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Julia was left feeling even more upset that their dad shared with the family how broken she was about the situation and will not speak further about the whole thing.