She Said Her Husband Would Lose The Privilege Of Naming Their Daughter If He Spent $45,000 On A New Car For His Parents
Many people who grew up in less fortunate circumstances often find ways to give back to their parents and families once they’re successful. However, there should still be boundaries regarding giving away a lot of money.
One woman is ready to revoke her husband’s privilege of naming their future daughter because she found out he had sent $45,000 to his parents without telling her.
She is 38, and her husband Gary is 41. They’re expecting their first child together, a baby girl, and they’re very excited.
While Gary has been an excellent husband, there is one issue she has with him regarding his relationship with his parents.
“Gary’s family lived in extreme poverty for most of his life,” she said.
“It was so bad that they came close to homelessness several times. Fortunately, Gary and his brothers were all able to secure good, stable jobs and have worked hard to pull their parents out of poverty.”
Although Gary and his brothers were able to help their parents escape poverty and live a fairly stable life, she still gets angry with him, as he’s continued to send them large amounts of money over the years.
For instance, before she and Gary got married, he took out a mortgage on a nice house for his parents before they could even figure out where they wanted to live.
In the last few weeks, Gary and his brothers began talking about getting a car for their parents since their old one was having issues, and she asked him not to spend too much money, as they needed to save up for their baby.
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“He reassured me that he wouldn’t, [but] for the past two weeks or so, Gary has been working later than usual,” she explained.
“I even overheard him telling a friend in our neighborhood that he needed to work longer hours because he was about to make a major purchase.”
She felt like Gary was keeping something from her, and she became frustrated. So, one night, she logged onto Gary’s laptop and saw that he made a wire transfer for $45,000. Then, she checked his messages between his brothers and found out that they were going in on $105,000 for his parents.
She was extremely upset, as she couldn’t understand why he would want to get his parents a car that expensive with a baby on the way and why he would keep this a secret from her.
That evening, when Gary returned home from work, she confronted him, told him he was being irresponsible, and asked him to cancel the wire transfer.
Gary became defensive, telling her they had plenty of money in the bank for any baby-related emergencies and that he’d been working overtime to afford this car for his parents.
They argued back and forth for a while, with her being angry he would spend so much money on his parents and him being angry that she invaded his privacy by going on his computer. She then told him that because he chose to spend that much money without consulting her about it, he had lost the privilege to help name their daughter.
“He got frustrated by this and just said I was being ‘too much,’ so we slept separately last night,” she added.
“We have also not spoken since. I personally think he’s being too stubborn, but my best friend thinks I’m too harsh.”
Was she being too harsh with Gary, or was she right to be angry?
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