She Said She Would Pay For Her Friends A Restaurant, But Left Without Footing The Bill Since She’s Tired Of Them Taking Advantage Of Her
Back in her sophomore year of college, this 20-year-old girl made friends with about 7 people whom she says are pretty excellent.
They have been thick as thieves ever since then, and they all attend a pretty pricey college that doesn’t offer scholarships. Due to that, she knows it’s reasonable to believe that they all come from rich families.
Back when she first started getting friendly with these people, they would grab drinks or meet up for brunch and split the bill all the time.
“However, I’ve been brought up to never let others pay and would offer to cover the bill whenever I could,” she explained.
“No one else offered to cover but I believe it’s just not common where they’re from. A few months ago, we were talking about our parents’ occupations, and I told them about my family. A quick Google search of my name brings up my father’s page; however, they had never connected the dots regarding our relationship.”
“My father is well known in the real estate industry and makes quite a bit of money. Since then, I’ve been labeled as the ‘rich friend’ in our group.”
She only gave her friends tiny details about what her mom and dad do, but they were able to quickly piece together the bigger picture, and it wasn’t possible for her to lie to them about it.
From there, any time she would go shopping with her friends, they would make a spectacle of her if she purchased cheap items.
They also would make snide remarks about her using public transit when she could clearly afford to ride around in Ubers or private jets or comment that she has so much money she should be able to buy a new outfit every single day.
Kalim – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
When she would do things with her friends and have to pay for her fair share of things, they would get uneasy as she pulled out cash to pay for herself.
So, in time, she began paying for her friends to prevent the awkwardness. Several weeks back, one of her friends celebrated his 21st birthday, and as a gift, she promised to pay for any activity he chose.
He picked dinner for them and the rest of their friends, which she didn’t mind paying for, as she offered this to celebrate.
Later on, when she turned 20, she hoped her friends would do something nice for her, too, but they didn’t.
She felt hurt as she realized she’s the one always treating her friends when they do nothing for her.
Then, she went on vacation with her friends to the country where she’s from. They made plans one night to do a pub crawl, which she was going to bail on as she had dinner with her parents already planned.
She then changed her mind and showed up for a handful of hours to hang with her friends. She had exactly one drink and didn’t order any food. Two hours in, she said she was going to leave to see her parents.
“Before I was leaving, however, one of my friends asked if I could quickly cover the tab before I left,” she added.
“I would’ve usually agreed, but this circumstance felt different since I hadn’t eaten and barely drank. I also didn’t want to come in the first place. This time, it seemed like they were trying to use me to pay, even if it was unintentional. I simply said I would but left without paying. I got a text later from one of them saying, “I thought you said you paid, lol. How was dinner?”
“We brushed over that instance quite easily, but their behavior from that night still bothers me. It seems like I have become the ‘rich friend’ character that always pays for their friends. How do I fix this without seeming like [a jerk]?”
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