Things Are Moving Too Fast With The Girl He Met On A Dating App, So He Wants To Ask Her To Leave His House And Go Home
Several months ago, this 26-year-old guy met a girl a year younger than him named Jessi on a dating app. They’ve been chatting ever since then, and he feels like they really developed a strong connection.
They only got to meet in person this past Thursday since Jessi lives 4 hours from where he does. The plan was for Jessi to come to his house on Thursday and stay with him for a handful of days before returning home.
On Thursday afternoon, Jessi got to his house, and they had an excellent time together. When Friday rolled around, they spent the morning working from home, and things were still wonderful.
Later on in the day, he began to feel quite sick. His stomach hurt and only increased in intensity as time went on.
Jessi jumped in to take care of him, running to the pharmacy and making him tea. When the clock struck midnight, he decided the pain was too intense, so he called his dad to take him to the Emergency Room.
He returned home at 3 a.m. with some medicine and a diagnosis: colitis. On Saturday morning, he continued to go downhill, so Jessi called an Uber to take him to the doctor.
This doctor diagnosed him with appendicitis, and he was in so much pain he was curled up in a ball on the floor with Jessi holding his head.
From the doctor’s office, he had to travel to a local clinic to get an ultrasound to confirm the appendicitis.
He waited forever to be seen at the clinic, and disappointingly enough, he was given inconclusive results, so he had to go to the hospital for an MRI.
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Jessi stayed by his side the entire time, and then he had to go into surgery. At 6 p.m. on Saturday night, he woke up from surgery to find Jessi and his entire family in his hospital room.
“To be honest, all of this felt very strange to me because I usually keep my family and friends very separate,” he explained.
“To give you some context, I have friends of many years who have never even met my dad. My last girlfriend was with me for almost a year before she met my dad, and Jessi, upon just meeting her, had already spent several hours with literally my entire close family; they even exchanged social media.”
He tried to push it out of his mind, and then his dad said to him that since Jessi volunteered to stay with him, he was going to head out.
That evening, he did have an excellent time with Jessi, but she kept kissing him frequently. He wouldn’t normally mind, but after recovering from surgery, he felt awful.
He had no interest in being that close to someone else while trying to feel better, but he didn’t want to say something and make Jessi upset, since she was doing a great job caring for him.
The last person who treated him with that level of tender-heartedness was his mom, and she passed away years ago.
“The next day, I was discharged, and my dad took us to my house, where we spent the rest of Sunday,” he said.
“I also want to point out that she behaved very well in front of my family and didn’t do anything like kiss me in front of them. At home, the kisses and hugs intensified, but the problem is that I wasn’t feeling them.”
“And it bothers me; Jessi is a great girl, very creative, caring about people and about me; she is intelligent, rebellious, and we have many things in common. Besides, I generally love these physical displays of affection.”
When Monday came, Jessi’s affection ramped back up, and she began kissing his neck and cuddling him, as well as coming up from behind and hugging him.
He couldn’t hide how uneasy he was, and Jessi picked up on it. Jessi stated she could tell he wasn’t enthusiastic while kissing her back, and he replied that he felt unattractive, swollen, and sore post-surgery.
That wasn’t a lie, but it wasn’t the complete truth either. He thought Jessi understood why he wasn’t in the mood to be close to her, and then she left to go to the grocery store so she could make them food.
“I gave her money, and she left,” he continued. “Shortly after, she returned with groceries enough for about 5 days; I was speechless because I don’t know how many more days she plans to stay.”
“And just thinking and feeling this about a person who has only been kind and helped me in a moment of vulnerability makes me feel terrible.”
“I’m thinking about telling her that maybe she should leave soon, but this only makes me feel ungrateful and like an idiot. How should I handle this situation?”
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