She Was Unpacking Takeout For Dinner When Her Husband Confessed To Having An Affair On The Last Night Of His Work Trip
In her freshman year of college, this 27-year-old woman met her 28-year-old husband, and they tied the knot a bit more than four years ago.
While she knows some people will say she and her husband haven’t been together for that long, the years she’s spent with her husband are the happiest she can remember.
She and her husband are best friends, and she considers him to be her inspiration and her rock as well.
So, you can see why it made her physically sick to find out her husband cheated on her while he was on a week-long work trip.
The night her husband arrived home, she was unpacking the takeout she had bought for dinner. She heard her husband walk through the door, so she stopped what she was doing to go say hello to him.
As soon as she saw him, he had a breakdown and confessed to the affair, which happened on the last night of his work trip.
“He told me that it didn’t mean anything, that he was drunk, and that the girl (a manager from a different branch of the company) and he had never even known of each other’s existence until then,” she explained.
“He was crying, on his knees, begging me to forgive him. I’ve only ever seen him cry twice: during his father’s funeral and on our wedding day.”
She really has no other information about this woman except that her husband had never met this woman prior to the trip.
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She thought about trying to get more information on the woman but decided against it, as it will only serve to make her spiral out of control.
Her husband had his wedding ring on during the trip, so if he kept the ring on for the entire time, this other woman would have to have known he wasn’t single.
Her husband rarely consumes alcohol, so she’s not certain she buys his excuse that he had too much to drink, which lowered his inhibitions.
She left to go stay with her mom and dad after her husband’s confession, and she hasn’t returned home or answered his calls and texts.
“I know I want a divorce; I’ve expressed multiple times to him, even before marriage, that cheating was non-negotiable for me—something that I couldn’t forgive or forget in a partner,” she said.
“But a part of me is scared of letting go. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this. Cheating is a taboo in my culture, and most of my friends are my husband’s friends, too.”
In her own family, cheating is often overlooked. She has cousins and aunts who have managed to forgive spouses for cheating, one-night stands, and hidden families. She believes her dad cheated on her mom, but her mom never left him.
Her loved ones won’t be so sympathetic if she does leave her husband behind, but she’s still trying to work through her emotions.
She and her husband were trying for a baby, which makes his affair hurt even worse. She plans on speaking with a lawyer at the end of the week to see about her options.
“He’s left me numerous messages, tried calling, and even left some voicemails,” she added. “One voicemail played accidentally while I was trying to delete it, and just hearing his voice nearly made me run back to him.”
“It’s pathetic, I know. I’m afraid that if I talk to him or see his face, I’ll want to go back. Since I live in the US, I hope to have minimal contact with him if and when I decide to file for divorce.”
“Some mutual friends of ours have already reached out, mostly siding with me, but a couple of our male friends have backed him, which I guess makes sense because many of them were fraternity brothers with him.”
What advice do you have for her?
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