Her Boyfriend Freaked Out Because She Didn’t Do Anything For His Birthday, Even Though He Rejected All Of Her Ideas And Said He Didn’t Want To Celebrate
This woman is currently in a relationship, and it was recently her boyfriend’s birthday. So, in the days leading up to the big day, she asked him on numerous occasions if he wanted to celebrate in any particular way.
She asked if he wanted a present or to do an activity, but he turned her down. She suggested they go out to lunch or dinner, even at his favorite Italian restaurant, but he said no.
“I suggested a lot of things, and they all got rejected,” she recalled.
The only thing her boyfriend said he wanted was a new bag, which she bought him.
Then, closer to his birthday, he claimed that he might have some plans with coworkers and friends to go out for either lunch or dinner. And she thought that was great.
Still, the day before his birthday, he kept making a big fuss about his age and how he didn’t want to celebrate getting older. She tried telling him that it wasn’t a big deal and that he shouldn’t be thinking like that since he really wasn’t that old.
Nonetheless, on the day of her boyfriend’s birthday, he continued to act “super mopey.”
“When he was in that mood in the past, he wanted to be left alone, and I’ve gotten yelled at before for not leaving him alone. So I figured he just was feeling a bit down and wanted to be left alone,” she explained.
So, she just headed off to work as usual. Yet, in the middle of the afternoon, her boyfriend wound up freaking out on her – accusing her of not “caring” about him because she didn’t do anything to celebrate him.
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On top of that, he even said that she didn’t “chase him enough” to figure out what he wanted to do on his birthday!
She, on the other hand, thought he’d already made it clear he didn’t want to do anything. That’s why she figured nagging him any further would be too pushy.
Still, her boyfriend disagreed with her and believes she should have treated him to a birthday meal anyway.
“But I offered days ago to make reservations in time and was refused. He also did mention something about plans with friends, so I thought if he actually wanted something like a meal, he would let me know he didn’t have plans and that he changed his mind,” she reasoned.
Aside from just that, her boyfriend was also upset that she “hid away” in her office all day and believed she used that as an excuse to ignore him.
In her defense, though, his birthday was on a work day, and she needed to go to work. She was busy and couldn’t just be at his beck and call the entire day.
Despite all of this, her boyfriend believes that she should’ve known his birthday was an important day for him and made it special.
“I just thought that since he refused everything I offered, plus his remarks about not feeling like celebrating, he didn’t actually want to do anything for his birthday,” she vented.
Now, that obviously wasn’t the case, and her boyfriend feels like she doesn’t even care about him. So, she’s since been left wondering if not planning anything for her boyfriend’s birthday was justified given his refusal or if she should’ve pushed harder to celebrate him.
Does it sound like she tried to respect her boyfriend’s wishes? If he wanted to be celebrated, shouldn’t he have communicated that instead of expecting her to chase him?
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