Her Husband Lied And Told His Coworkers That Her Pregnant Sister Is Really His Wife
Five years ago, this 30-year-old woman married her 32-year-old husband. They met when they were in college, and they’ve been with one another for seven years in total.
Her husband is the first man she ever met who made her feel like she could be comfortable in her own skin.
She’s quite tomboyish, with an athletic build, and she likes to wear jeans instead of anything girly. Her husband made her believe he loved her for who she was and didn’t want to change her into something she wasn’t.
And honestly, her gorgeous younger sister Rosalie made her feel insecure all along, because her mom favored her. To this day, she hasn’t been able to move past those deep-seated insecurities.
Two months ago, Rosalie found out that she was pregnant, and her boyfriend left her after she told him the news.
Rosalie was crushed, and she let Rosalie move in with her and her husband. Everything has been going well, and her husband hasn’t been acting like anything is off.
Around one month ago, she was having a hairy day, so she asked Rosalie to drop something off at her husband’s office for her.
When Rosalie arrived at the office, all of her husband’s coworkers figured Rosalie was his wife.
“They congratulated him on his “beautiful wife” and their “soon-to-be son,” and instead of correcting them, he just went along with it,” she explained.
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“He admitted that he liked how his coworkers reacted to having a beautiful wife and a baby on the way it made him feel good.”
“One of his coworkers asked him where his wife was at an event, and since Rosalie had already dropped by once before, they assumed she was his wife, and he didn’t correct them. It made him feel validated, like he was living up to some ideal that I guess I don’t fit into.”
A couple of evenings ago, she and her husband were out at a restaurant celebrating their anniversary, and one of his coworkers was there.
The man asked her husband where his wife was, and her husband blurted out that his wife was busy.
Her stomach dropped, and their night was completely ruined. After they finished their food, they hurried home, and that’s when she confronted her husband.
“To say I’m devastated would be an understatement,” she said. “My husband and I had always agreed on being child-free.”
“We had that discussion early on in our relationship, and I thought we were on the same page. I don’t have a strong desire to be a mom myself, partly because I have PCOS, and I know it would be difficult for me to conceive. But now it feels like my husband’s been using my sister to live out some fantasy life that I could never give him.”
“Rosalie had no idea about any of this. When I told her, she was horrified. She kept apologizing even though none of this is her fault. She feels awful and has even offered to move out, but I can’t ask her to do that. She’s already going through so much, and I want to be there for her. But it’s so awkward now. I can see how guilty and uncomfortable she feels being in the middle of this mess.”
What her husband did just opened up all the old wounds she spent her 20s trying to heal in therapy. She was forced to grow up in Rosalie’s shadow, and she figured by now, she could finally appreciate her uniqueness.
All those years of working on herself have been flushed down the drain, and she’s left feeling like she’s worthless.
Ever since she found out that her husband lied to his coworkers about Rosalie being his wife, their marriage has been in a bad place.
They no longer are sleeping in the same room and they have hardly said anything to one another. She used to trust her husband, but that trust has evaporated, and she’s not sure she can get it back.
She feels like her husband stabbed her in the back, and if he was that comfortable lying about his wife, she’s wondering what else he’s keeping a secret.
It hurts that her husband clearly believes she’s not even good enough to be introduced to his coworkers.
“I’m starting to wonder if he’s been hiding me because he’s embarrassed by who I am,” she added. “This whole thing has dragged up every insecurity I’ve ever had. I’ve always felt like I didn’t measure up to Rosalie, even though she’s never done anything to make me feel that way.”
“But now it feels like my husband has confirmed my worst fears. He chose to pretend Rosalie was his wife because she fits some ideal image, and I don’t.”
She’s wondering how she can begin to move forward. She adores her husband and wants to desperately think this is one enormous mistake, but something is telling her it’s not so simple.
She’s also upset about how Rosalie has been impacted by the lie, and Rosalie is so uneasy in their home now.
She wants to talk things through with her husband, but if she brings the subject up, it’s going to turn into a blowout fight.
“I feel so low, but I can’t stand the idea of our relationship ending,” she continued. “I love this man more than anything.”
“He keeps saying sorry and trying to plan date nights. I’m honestly not in the mood for any of it. I’ve cried two times and have binge-eaten more than I have ever before. How do I live my life now, knowing that I’m possibly not enough for my husband?”
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