Her Ex-Husband Is Upset That She’s Having A Baby With Her Fiancé Since The Reason Why They Split Up Was Because She Didn’t Want Children

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This woman and her ex-husband were together for two decades, from the time they were 15 years old until they turned 35. But sadly, the last few years of their marriage were unhappy, mainly because her ex had changed his mind about never having kids.

She and her ex first met when they were both very young and by the time they were in their mid-twenties, they had agreed to remain child-free. As her ex got older, though, he realized he actually did want to start a family.

This sparked a lot of tension at the end of their otherwise beautiful marriage, which is why they opted to call it quits. She and her ex didn’t want to start resenting each other or ruining their fond memories.

“Only when he moved out did I realize that we actually hadn’t been in love for a while, and this in itself was heartbreaking. I never knew how heartbreaking it is to fall out of love with someone who was a big part of your life,” she recalled.

Then, within just one year of their split, her ex wound up meeting a new woman and getting her pregnant. He went on to marry the woman, his new wife, and have two kids in total.

She’s since spent some time checking up on her ex’s life from afar, specifically online, and she thinks that he and his new wife seem very happy.

Yet, whenever she saw her husband playing with his children or holding them, she couldn’t help but feel her own sense of deep loneliness.

“My siblings around me, my best friends, everyone was having children, and it made me feel more and more lonely,” she admitted.

“All the people I know have priorities now that aren’t ‘us’ siblings or friends anymore. I felt terrible loneliness all the time.”

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However, three years ago, she met a new man as well: her current fiancé. She is deeply in love with him and thrilled about their engagement.

She also had a change of heart about kids after watching her ex-husband start a family and told her fiancé that she wanted to have a baby.

Thankfully, he was ecstatic about that, and she is currently seven months pregnant.

Still, ever since her ex-husband heard that she was expecting, he has been really upset with her. In fact, he even wants to meet up with her and talk to her about it because he believes that she lied about not wanting children.

“But I swear I didn’t lie. I just changed. Our last period together changed me, and so did the years after the divorce,” she explained.

“Seeing everyone happy around me, I am totally lonely. Even my divorced friends had their children to love and care about and seemed content.”

She clarified that she never intended to hurt her ex-husband, either, and honestly, she has no clue why he’s upset about her pregnancy, as he seems very happy with his own family now.

Nonetheless, she’s unsure if having a baby with her new partner, despite her past desire to remain child-free being the reason why her marriage ended, really does make her a jerk.

Are people allowed to change their perspectives? Is it natural as you go through life? Do you think she should meet up with her ex or leave that chapter behind her?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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