She Went On A First Date With A Guy Who Kept Pressuring Her To Drink And Calling Her A Buzzkill For Ordering Water, So She Paid For Her Own Steak, And He Was Furious
Around a year ago, this 24-year-old woman met a 26-year-old guy through a mutual friend, and they wound up going on a date.
At the time, they were both attending college graduate programs, and after the guy started texting her, he seemed nice, which is why she agreed to have dinner with him at a steakhouse.
But from the moment she arrived at the restaurant, she thought the vibe felt really off.
It wasn’t an issue with the restaurant, either, as she’d actually been there before and loved it. Rather, it was the guy – since he kept insisting on doing “gentlemanly” things for her that totally threw her off.
Then, he wouldn’t stop talking about how expensive the restaurant was and bringing up the idea of ordering a bottle of wine.
“And I told him I don’t drink because I’m not into alcohol (I never have been), but he pushed me to ‘loosen up,'” she recalled.
She didn’t allow the guy to bother her, and she stood her ground, simply ordering water with her dinner. However, as the evening went on, he grew increasingly frustrated with the fact she wasn’t drinking.
At one point, he even accused her of being a “buzzkill” and claimed their date wasn’t any fun without alcohol involved.
This really rubbed her the wrong way, so by the end of the dinner, she decided that she wanted to pay for her own meal. She’d ordered a New York strip steak while her date had gotten a sirloin, and she didn’t want him to feel like she owed him anything.
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“Especially after all the pressure and because I knew my bill was going to be higher since my steak was much larger,” she explained.
That’s why, once their waitress came back to the table, she asked for separate checks, and it was clear her date was furious. He asked why she wouldn’t just “let him be a gentleman,” and she admitted that she didn’t feel comfortable letting him pay.
Well, later that same night, the guy ultimately texted her and stated it was rude that she paid for herself. He also apparently believed she acted “super cold” by refusing to have a drink with him.
She proceeded to block the guy’s number after that, and she went on with her life, never speaking to him again.
Yet, more recently, she went out to dinner at that same steakhouse with her current boyfriend of six months, and she started to think about that past bad date. While out with her boyfriend, she happily let him pay for all of their food and enjoyed how he made her feel like a “queen.”
“He opened the door for me and pulled out my chair. All things that the person I had been on one date with did,” she detailed.
“I only thought about it because we had the same waitress as I had on that first date.”
The only thing that was different about her date with her boyfriend was that, even though he had a couple of martinis, he never pressured her to drink.
Still, she realizes in hindsight that there might have been a “double standard” on these two dates. And now, she’s not sure if refusing to let the guy pay for her meal a year ago really was a jerky move.
How would you react to a guy telling you to “loosen up?” Was it a red flag that he kept urging her to drink? Did she handle the situation the right way?
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