Nearly All The Guys She’s Met Online Look Nothing Like Their Photos
Last year, this woman re-entered the dating pool, and unfortunately, nearly all the guys she’s met online look nothing like their photos.
Regarding her dating profile, she’s made sure to include recent photos of herself that have all been snapped within the last year.
She’s proud of her fitness and her body, and she shows that online in a way that’s not too much; she’s just being honest about what she looks like.
She also does not include any photos of herself wearing makeup, and she picks angles that make it clear she’s not attempting to cover anything up.
She believes in being straightforward about her appearance, and it’s not unreasonable for her to expect the same thing from men.
“…I would hate for a guy to be disappointed when they show up for our date,” she explained. “There are close-ups and further away shots of me and my body.”
“When I’ve shown up for the dates I’ve been on over the past year (I just returned to dating last fall), almost every single guy looks different from their photos.”
“Their photos are always from 5-10 years ago when they had less or no gray hair, were 20-30 lbs lighter (if not more), and more in shape with a strong build and toned body (and then they show up with a dad bod and beer gut), and often times, they’ve used tricky angles to make them look more bulky muscle-wise than they actually are.”
Many of the guys are unkempt and clearly don’t prioritize caring for themselves, yet in their photos, they’re clean-cut and freshly shaved. Some men even show up hungover or already hammered.
Kaspars Grinvalds – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Occasionally, the men she meets aren’t honest about their heights, either.
She eats healthy, has a solid beauty and skincare routine, and just wants to meet men who also care the way that she does.
When she gets stuck on a date with a guy who lied in his photos, it’s painfully unpleasant for her, and she’s growing tired of wasting her time since it happens constantly.
“I’m an athlete, so even though I am petite in stature, I have (relatively) broad, muscular shoulders for my size, and I don’t love it when it feels like I can do more pushups than my date,” she said.
“When I was younger, I didn’t care so much about people’s bodies, but now that I realize how much time I’ve invested in staying in decent shape over the years in terms of my physical and emotional self, I am unapologetically only looking for the same.”
“And I actually am into the dad bod in certain instances, but I don’t like when someone has misrepresented themselves so egregiously in their photos. If they had a dad bod photo in their profile when I swiped right, then I know what the score is, and it’s fine.”
In an effort to combat the wild misrepresentations, she’s been asking guys to send her selfies prior to meeting up with her.
She also requests a FaceTime with them so she can scope out what they actually look like. She doesn’t make this a requirement for every man who shows promise, but she’s thinking that perhaps she should.
After all of the awful dates she’s gone on, she’s thinking of giving up online dating for a while and opting for experiences where she can meet men in real life first to sort through them faster.
What advice do you have for her?
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