She Wants To Warn Her Husband’s Affair Partner Since This Girl Doesn’t Seem To Know He’s Married
Five years ago, this 29-year-old woman met her 34-year-old husband, and they got hitched three years ago.
Now, back when they first started dating, her husband was living with his ex, and he told her it was strictly for financial purposes.
Apparently, his ex had no other place she could move into, and she was already dating another guy, so everything was amicable. Six months into dating her husband, his ex finally moved out of his home.
“During those first 6 months, we dated like a normal couple; we went on regular dates, he’d stay over at my house, we hung out with each other’s friends, he was never unresponsive to my messages or calls, and we even went out of town for a few weekends,” she explained.
“My husband and I don’t have social media, but my friends snooped around on her Facebook, and it appeared as if they had broken up about 3 months before I had met him.”
“Her relationship status was single, none of her posts involved him, there weren’t any photos of them together. I never met her.”
Fast forward to a year and a half ago, her husband got a new 21-year-old female coworker, and he would admit that this girl was flirting with him.
This girl followed her husband around while he was on breaks, badgered him for his phone number and social media information, and even went so far as to buy a membership to his gym (he quit going to the gym after this).
Her husband made it clear to his coworker that he was married, and it was crossing a line to provide her with his number.
Artem Zatsepilin – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She thinks it’s a key thing to note that her husband does not wear his wedding ring at work, as it is considered to be a safety risk due to his profession.
“I saw her a couple [of] times on the rare occasion that I picked him up from work,” she said. “She was clearly hanging around a few minutes late until he got picked up.”
“But I never saw them be inappropriate, and the way my husband looked at her was like pity and mild disgust. He’d complain about how young and annoying she was and everything she messed up at work that day on the way home.”
“She then started inviting him to things. I was never invited; my husband declined all of the invites. She bought him gifts for holidays; he declined to accept them. I am, well was, very confident in my relationship and was not threatened by any of this. After all, he married me, we were building a future together, she was following him around at work being rejected at every turn.”
Three months ago, her husband stepped away from his phone, and she saw that he was getting some messages.
They have an open phone policy, and when she curiously checked his phone, she realized he was getting messages on Instagram.
However, she always thought her husband didn’t even have an account on this platform. She investigated further and found out that her husband has been talking to his coworker there, and they have been carrying out an affair since August of last year.
The messages between them were steamy, and this girl was all over her husband, acting very loving.
“She seemed to be very attached to him; I would use the word infatuated,” she added. “I gathered they hadn’t [slept together], but he may have [done other things], and they’ve definitely made out.”
“They don’t see each other away from work, but there are a few places around the shop where they’ve snuck off together. If he told her we were married, he must have told her that it was a miserable marriage because, in the messages, she refers to “his situation” as the reason they can’t really be together.”
Her husband didn’t say he would end up in a relationship with this girl, though clearly, that is what this girl is after.
Her husband didn’t tell this girl he loved her, but she sure said it a lot to him. It seems like her husband was stringing this girl along for all the physical benefits.
She’s just piecing this together based on the messages: she has no idea what her husband has said to this girl’s face.
“I was devastated, and I only managed to read so much before I decided to take some photo evidence and continue cooking dinner like nothing was the matter,” she continued.
She’s been busy getting her ducks in a row so she can move forward with divorcing her husband, and she’s done a wonderful job of not tipping her hand to him.
She’s about to file, but first, she would like to reach out to his affair partner and tell her the truth about her husband.
She doesn’t believe that this girl has an idea that her husband is married, and she thinks she deserves to know.
“I don’t want her to be standing in my shoes in 5 years. I can’t save every woman from my cheating husband, but I think I can save this one,” she said.
“I would now be willing to bet that he wasn’t actually broken up with the woman he was living with when he started dating me. I believe I was the other woman for those 6 months, and I keep asking myself, what could someone have said to me back then that would have made me leave?”
“All I can think of is run, run as fast and as far as you can from him, but I don’t think I would have taken that advice. Then again, my initial relationship with him felt like dating; it was not sneaking around. If you were ever the other woman, how would you want me to tell you, and what could I say that would make you leave him?”
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