She Feels Humiliated Her Husband Never Mentioned Sleeping With Her Best Friend Back In College
Back in middle school, this 31-year-old woman met her husband Hogan, who is the same age as her.
They dated throughout high school, but they split up that summer before attending college since they were headed off to different parts of the country.
She remained in contact with Hogan, though, and they started dating again after he moved home post-graduation.
“Hogan was a D1 football player, and I know he had a wild streak in college,” she explained. “Several of my friends from high school attended the same college as Hogan, and they told me that he was a huge player and slept with way too many girls his first few years.”
“To be honest, I was hurt at the time since I still really cared for him, but we weren’t together, so I knew he had the right to do what he wanted.”
“I also was the one who ended things with him, and so I didn’t think it was fair for me to [be] upset about him sleeping with other women.”
After she resumed her relationship with Hogan, she questioned him about the crazy rumors she heard about his college days.
He simply said that yes, he had his fun, but he didn’t want to discuss the details of who he hooked up with or what he did, as that was behind him.
He reassured her that he would have preferred to have dated her so she shouldn’t be envious of the other girls who came into his life in college.
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She resolved to move on, and so she and Hogan have been back with one another for close to a decade. Their marriage is built on trust, and they are completely committed to one another.
She does have someone else in her life who has been there with her since middle school, like Hogan: her childhood best friend, Delaney.
They weren’t as close in college, but after graduation, they resumed their friendship. While they’re not as tight as they were as kids, they still have a special relationship, though it’s currently pretty surface-level.
Delaney came to visit last weekend to celebrate getting engaged, so she and Hogan met the couple for coffee.
“The entire time, Delaney’s fiancé was distant and a bit abrasive,” she said. “I got dinner with them once without Hogan, and he wasn’t that way at all, so I thought it was strange.”
Delaney launched into a tale about how she allowed her and Hogan to come over to her house when her mom wasn’t home so they could hook up.
Delaney’s fiancé made a weird comment directed right at her, and Delaney told him to cut it out. After coffee was over and it was just her and Hogan, she questioned him about the strange remark.
“Hogan asked if Delaney ever mentioned being hurt that they didn’t go out again after they slept together,” she added.
“I was shocked because no one ever told me they’d slept together. Hogan seemed confused and thought he or Delaney told me at some point.”
She pointed out to Hogan that neither he nor Delaney had said a word to her over the years about their fling.
Hogan and Delaney both didn’t get attached to one another after that, but she feels ridiculous for being kept out in the dark about this secret.
“I told Hogan he made me look like an idiot because I’ve been getting meals with her for years and had no idea she slept with my husband. She even came to our wedding,” she continued.
“To be clear, I’m not upset with either Hogan or Delaney about what happened in college. Hogan and I weren’t together at the time, and we were all young and stupid. I’m upset that he didn’t tell me after all these years.”
“Hogan insists that he didn’t think it was [a] big deal since it only happened once and he had [slept] with so many girls in college. He also says he didn’t want to be disrespectful and tell me about every girl he slept with when we weren’t together. He insists that he thought he’d mentioned the Delaney thing at some point and truly didn’t think it was a major thing. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, but I’m really hurt and disappointed that he never told me.”
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