She’s Letting Her Wedding Guests Vote On What Her New Last Name Should Be Since She And Her Fiancé Can’t Pick
Taking your husband’s last name is a tradition that many women (as well as men) view as outdated and stodgy.
I’m going to give you a super quick history of how this tradition came to be, and if you ever thought it was romantic, it’s actually super dark.
Back in England in the Middle Ages, there was something called coverture in English common law, which limited a woman’s legal rights after marriage.
It basically made you the property of your husband, and the one entity recognized after marriage was your husband, so that made you legally dead.
There you have it: that’s why women started out taking on the last name of their husbands. But anyway, here we are in 2024, where it’s not that shocking to hear about women keeping their maiden names or working with their husbands to develop a new last name entirely.
As for a woman who calls herself Bona Bones and goes by @bona.bones on TikTok, she and her fiancé can’t decide on what their new last name should be, so they’re actually letting their wedding guests vote for them.
How cool is that? And she hilariously has in her bio “Maybe Mrs. Bonadona Bartlebaugh,” as that’s the combination of her last name and her fiancé’s.
Her last name is Bonadona, and his last name is Bartlebaugh, so if they went ahead and hyphenated both their last names to create a new one, it would be a lot to say.
People kind of lost their nuggets when she brought up the idea, so then they went with their next plan: allowing their wedding guests to pick.
Vasil – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person – pictured above, a woman in a wedding dress holds a diamond ring in her manicured hands
“We decided we’re going to let our wedding guests vote on if we should hyphenate our name or not,” she explained in a video.
“‘Cause the thing is, we both really love our last names; neither of us want to give up our last name, and so yeah, we’re just going to have our guests vote on it.”
“And we’re going to play the German Rhabarberbar song while our guests vote.”
The song she’s referencing is a rap that went viral on TikTok, and the original song in the rap is a German tongue-twister about a woman by the name of Barbara who makes rhubarb cakes.
“I think the Bonadona-Bartlebaughs sounds like a family of old-money rich woodland creatures from a wind-in-the-willows style storybook. I vote yes,” one person remarked.
“I am a stranger BEGGING you to do it – there isn’t enough whimsy in this world, and that may just be my new favorite last name…,” someone else added.
“When my friends got married, her last name was Space, and his last name was Blankenship. There was a very brief conversation about being the Blankenspaceships,” another person said.
@bona.bones Replying to @Davey
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