His Wife’s Accusing Him Of Using Her Health As Blackmail, But He Just Wants Her To Take The Decorations Out Of Their Kitchen So He Can Cook
This 37-year-old man has refused to cook a full meal in his kitchen for the past two months because he doesn’t agree with how his wife decorated it, making it more aesthetically pleasing than actually functional.
For some context, he and his wife, who’s 35, purchased their home two years ago, and while his wife had a lot of requirements, he only cared about having a good kitchen with plenty of room. He’s been cooking for his entire life and handles all their meals.
Once they found their current property, they were both thrilled, and his wife started adding her “flair” to most of its rooms. He loves everything she’s chosen, too, from paint colors and furniture to wall art, saying his wife has “great taste.”
But then, his wife began talking about decorating the kitchen a few months ago. In her opinion, it stood out like a sore thumb, given it was the only room in the house that hadn’t been fixed up and personalized.
He was open to the idea in the beginning as well, yet he came to hate his wife’s big ideas for the space. First, she wanted to add random knick-knacks, so she kept returning home with new items every single day.
“Baskets with fake fruit. Big ceramic pots for flour (we don’t bake) and book-sized wooden blocks with ‘sweet’ sayings on them,” he explained.
“A wine rack and espresso machine (we don’t drink either), vinegarette decanters with glittery liquid in it, and decorative plates that sit on the cabinet shelves (in front of the real dishes).”
What pushed him over the edge was when he realized his wife had moved his big chopping block above the refrigerator and put their toaster oven in a cabinet. Why? Well, apparently, she wanted to make room for a serving tray with a kettle, four cups, and saucers as if they were going to host afternoon tea. Spoiler alert: they never do!
At that point, he finally told his wife that he wasn’t on board with her kitchen design vision. In his mind, the kitchen was already the perfect size to get real cooking done, and he used their toaster oven and butcher block quite often. So, he felt they should remain in their places.
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“I asked her where there was even space left for me to put down my 20-inch by 28-inch butcher’s block, [and] she started showing what could be moved over to accommodate the block,” he recalled.
“I said that I wasn’t moving stuff around every single time I wanted to cut a melon.”
His wife didn’t understand that, insisting it wouldn’t be a “big deal” and that he’d “get used to it.” Nonetheless, he wanted all the random items out of his workspace and stood firm. Eventually, she actually began crying and saying that he didn’t get to simply decide for the both of them.
“And we’ve tried talking about it again a few times, and it always ends with her crying. I don’t yell or anything. She just refuses to accept that I don’t want a cute kitchen more than I want a useful one,” he added.
That’s why, for the past two months, he hasn’t cooked a real, full meal in their kitchen. Sure, he meal preps and makes a few days’ worth of proteins, rice, potatoes, salad, or frozen soup. However, he’s just been storing the dishes in the fridge and eating them later on.
Now, it’s not like his wife hasn’t been allowed to eat his prepped meals. She just doesn’t like leftovers, so she hasn’t touched any of the food.
It’s also seemingly taking a toll on her because she’s begun gaining weight, wasting time in drive-thrus, and paying money for low-quality food that she doesn’t really enjoy.
Unfortunately, though, it’s unclear when this issue will be solved. Just last night, they attempted to have another conversation about their kitchen, and it still didn’t go over well.
He told his wife that if his cooking was so important to her, then she should just let him have the kitchen layout he needed. Again, it ended with her sobbing, and she accused him of using her health as blackmail to win an argument.
“I gave up after that, and we both had to leave for work before we could talk it over,” he vented.
“I feel dead set that as the person actually using the kitchen, cooking tools should not have to compete for space with useless [items], and I refuse to cook in such a cumbersome way.”
Regardless, with him and his wife stuck in a stalemate, he can’t help but wonder if he’s somehow in the wrong here.
Do you think his opinion matters more since he cooks the most? How could they compromise?
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