If you’re married, do you think it’s acceptable to go on vacation alone without your spouse? Or do you believe that if you’re married, you have to take your other half with you?
This 34-year-old woman has horrible bipolar seasonal depression. Every November, it hits her like a ton of bricks, but each year, it varies in how intense it is.
She is seeing an incredible psychiatrist to help her through this. She additionally takes medication, uses light therapy, and participates in neuromodulation, which helps to alter her nerve activity.
“This psychiatrist suggested I should travel south to ‘reset’ my brain and help break the depression that was hitting me pretty hard,” she explained.
“I told my husband (M40) of the suggestion, and he said, Do it! So I booked the trip and looked forward to going. I was leaving him and the pets behind. It was a big stress, but I could see the hope of sunlight, and I thought it was worth it.”
“The day of the flight south, he was angry and grumpy. He asked if I could cancel. Since it was a 1100$ (which is a lot of money for me) without [a] possible refund, I said not really.”
He still drove her to the airport, and when he dropped her off, he was furious. She did still get on that plane and head off to her beach vacation.
Two weeks after she came home, her husband left her, and today, she asked him for clarity on why he made the decision to no longer be in their marriage.
Well, he told her it was because she went on vacation without him.
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“He had traveled to Europe the week before, for work. He said that was appropriate solo travel. But beach/fun travel should be a couple thing,” she added.
“I reminded him I went there for treatment, not for fun. Not to leave him behind. Anyway, now I’m heartbroken. The expected benefit of the sun barely kicked in for a week and a half, and now I’m back even more down because all our plans and dreams are down the drain.”
“I didn’t see it as wrong to go, especially since I asked him if it was ok with him.”
She’s left wondering if she was a jerk to jet off to a beach alone.
Since he did give her his enthusiastic permission to go, I’m questioning if this is really why her husband is dumping her. I think there has to be more to the story, but he’s just not filling her in on all the details.
It might very well be that he was also looking for a valid reason to leave her, and he picked the beach trip to cling to for that.
What do you think?
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