Dating apps are the new wild west, and basic courtesy is often the first thing to get left at the saloon door. Most of us expect at least a baseline level of social etiquette when we finally meet someone in person, like, you know, not ditching your date to exchange numbers with a complete stranger.
If you’ve ever felt like modern dating has hit a new low, buckle up, because this story underscores just how chaotic the search for love has become.
Yesterday evening, this 28-year-old man went on his first date with a 31-year-old woman he met through a dating app. They agreed to grab drinks at a rooftop bar and get to know one another before heading off to another bar for dancing.
They talked for an hour and a half over cocktails, and he genuinely believed everything was off to an excellent start.
After finishing up, they went to a second bar located next door and ordered more drinks. 30 minutes later, he ordered them an Uber so they could hit the third location to dance. Upon arriving there, they enjoyed more drinks and dancing.
At that final stop, a man walked up to his date and attempted to hit on her, but not before asking him if they were an item. He responded that they were out on a date, and this guy didn’t respect that at all.
“He then asks her the same thing, and she does not mention being on a date at all and just tells him we just met tonight and basically welcomes his advances, and they chat a bit more,” he explained.
“He also asked her in front of me if she’d pick him or me. I turned away while they were talking, so I don’t know what she said, but they exchanged contact info, and he went away afterward. Once he left, she asks if that was weird for me, which I’m like, yeah, that was.”
“Then she tells me she thinks we’d be better as friends, which I thought was weird to do 3 hours into a date and never mention it earlier. She says we should still try to have a good time since we’re out here anyway, and that she’ll wing woman me if I want to pick up another girl at the bar.”
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He remarked that he wasn’t interested in that, as he would rather be hanging out with her, since they were still on a date. He also added that he’s not into trying to pick up random girls at a bar, and this girl called him a rude name in response.
Finally, he declared that he would simply head home, and this girl got extremely mad at him. She stormed off to order another drink for herself, and that was it.
Instead of ending the date in such a callous way, he wished this girl had been honest and said she wasn’t feeling a romantic connection or didn’t think they were a good match.
That way, they could have called it a night, and he wouldn’t have had to pay for everything and gone through the effort of selecting all the bars they went to that he thought she would enjoy.
“If I’m on a date where I don’t vibe with the person, I usually don’t try to prolong it any more than I have to. And I most certainly will never try to hit on another girl or welcome advances from one while on a date with someone else, just out of respect,” he continued.
“Is it normal for people to do this? Ironically, she asked me what’s the worst date I’ve ever been on earlier, and I didn’t really have a good answer since I like to think most, if not all, dates I’ve gone on have been decent, even if there wasn’t a spark.”
Raise your hand if you think this girl just wanted free drinks and a night out on the town she didn’t have to foot the bill for! Now he does have a good story to tell, at least about the worst date he’s been on in his life.
This girl was downright disrespectful, as she absolutely should have told him that she wasn’t interested instead of rudely flirting with another man who knew they were on a date.
I wish he had left as soon as she entertained the other man, and I’m sorry this girl was such a waste of his time.
What advice do you have for him?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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