I do think that when you end a serious relationship, it can be hard for your ex to move on and not be so attached to your family members, especially if they shared a close bond over the years.
How would you feel if you found out that the person you were engaged to and nearly married was still having a secret relationship with your parent behind your back?
It was five years ago that this woman walked away from her fiancé after it dawned on her that it would be the worst mistake of her life to marry that man.
She has gone on to find someone truly incredible, and they did have the wedding of their dreams. She and her husband are now expecting their firstborn child.
She’s happy to report that she got her happily ever after, and her life turned out how she dreamed it would. She thinks that if you are in an awful relationship, you should give yourself permission to leave and find someone better and more deserving of you.
But anyway, that’s not exactly the problem here: her ex-fiancé is, even though she has not spoken a word to this man since they split up and called off the wedding.
“Yesterday I found out that my ex has apparently been calling my mum and dad whenever he gets drunk, and my dad talks to him and gives him life advice,” she explained.
“This has apparently been happening in secret for the last 4.5 years?!?!?! The reason I even found out is because about 6 months ago, my ex randomly texted me out of nowhere after years of no contact.”
“He started writing about how ‘my family and his family made fun of my now husband.’ I blocked him immediately because I thought, ‘what a loser, can’t let go after almost 5 years,’ and my husband just laughed and called him cringe.”
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What she did find upsetting was that the things said about her husband were just really malicious. It’s not that she cares about her ex’s opinion of her husband; it was the fact that he boasted about her loved ones siding with him.
That she couldn’t quite understand, so she reached out to her mom yesterday and brought it up. Well, her mom proceeded to admit that her ex calls her dad whenever he’s had too much to drink, and her dad picks up and talks to him since he feels too bad to ignore the calls.
So to put the pieces together here, her dad hasn’t just been doling out words of wisdom to her ex; he’s also been gossiping to him about her husband!
“Am I overreacting for thinking this is really inappropriate, and I feel humiliated?” she wondered.
Wow, her dad is a backstabber! I’m furious that she’s in this situation, because it’s so many levels of not acceptable for her dad to be doing this.
This definitely goes beyond her dad feeling bad for her ex; this is just nefarious. I would cut contact with her dad completely if I were her.
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