Sometimes, you just get fired, and that’s a part of life you don’t necessarily expect to have to deal with. But how would you feel if your spouse got fired from 10 jobs in just three years? Would you blame them or think it was bad luck from the universe?
Yesterday, this woman felt really ill but went to work anyway, despite a head cold and laryngitis. Later on, when she and her husband both had come home from work, her husband stated that he had just been fired.
He said it was because he slept in late and was four minutes late to the office, but this is one ugly pattern for her husband, as this isn’t the first time he’s been fired.
“We haven’t even been married 3 full years, and he’s been fired from 10 jobs, including every temp job he’s ever had. This is probably the longest stint of employment he has had with any job, and he was there since September,” she explained.
“I’ve been at my job consistently since July 2023. He told me, leading up to this firing, [that] he wasn’t happy in his job. But he’s not been happy in any job he’s had.”
“He relapsed early in our marriage, and he’s been sober for a year and a half. I believe most of the layoffs and firings were untrue. This one, he said, he had 39 points against him.”
Her husband will find any excuse in the book to call out of his jobs. He never gets out of bed on time despite setting alarms, so he’s routinely late.
From the information she’s gathered, her husband is more concerned with slacking off and messing around than getting actual work done in the office.
She’s at the end of her rope, and she’s tried to get her husband to apply to other positions or consider going back to college since he has spoken about a different career track, but he has no motivation.
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“He’s in therapy, but I don’t think he’s ever honest with his therapist, and I don’t believe he’s honest with his sobriety partners, either, or his sponsor,” she continued.
“He goes to meetings every night but won’t work the 12 steps. He’s not a self-starter. He’s not motivated. IDK how to encourage or motivate him, and honestly, I’ve been feeling like separating from him for a while now because most of his problematic characteristics have not changed since the drug use stopped.”
“I need advice. How do I get a separate bank account so I can protect myself and save without him blowing up on me? I don’t trust him.”
While I understand sobriety is a priority, that’s not necessarily the cause of her husband’s laziness. It very well could just be his personality.
In regard to how she can protect her money, she can just walk into her bank and ask them to set up a new account, then deposit her paycheck directly into it.
And then when she’s done doing that, maybe she should look into getting a divorce, because I don’t think she can make her husband morph into a responsible adult.
What advice do you have for her?
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