Her Husband Nearly Died And Spent A Month In A Coma, But Now He Spends His Days Doomscrolling While Doing Nothing

Do you think that if someone has a near-death experience, it can leave them anxious, depressed, or questioning the meaning of life?

This 35-year-old woman has a husband the same age as her, and several years ago, he experienced a medical incident that nearly ended in his death.

Her husband spent a month in a coma, and his doctors gravely informed her that he would not pull through, but if he miraculously managed to, he would never be the same.

The doctors insisted he would never talk, walk, or even see. She didn't believe it and fought to care for her husband until he made a complete recovery.

But it was so taxing on her that it almost killed her as well. One year later, her husband was much improved and went in for his follow-up appointment.

"To make a long story short, he had to go through the same thing again, but this time it was a bit easier and faster. We are now 3 years from the original event and 2 from the second. He is now a lot better, I’d say 95% back to himself," she explained.

"In the beginning, he was obviously very depressed, and I, of course, took care of him and was there for him. He slowly started getting better."

"Eventually, he joined a yoga class and was doing that for a few months, and he started taking an art class to reconnect with that part of him."

They went on vacation. Her husband got his doctor's permission to hike a mountain, which was something he had to do for himself to feel improved. Everything appeared to be getting better.

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However, in the last several months, her husband's motivation and ambition have vanished. He can't seem to do anything, although he has made it to a yoga class twice in the last three months.

Sometimes he goes to art class, only to come home and gripe about how much better everyone else is than him. She told her husband it was meant to be fun, and it's not like he has to be some great artist.

"He spends his days doomscrolling on social media or playing video games. Yesterday, we were talking about a specific family obligation we had to go to, and he said he didn’t want to be around people," she added.

"I asked why, and he said because he’s anxious. I asked why, and he said he is just after the medical events that happened to him. I reminded him of how much it was the opposite of this a few months ago, and he didn’t have an answer."

"Somehow the conversation turned into him not finding a job yet, and how that is causing him to be anxious. But he also said his anxiety is preventing him from getting a job."

Her husband was in therapy, but he quit a few months ago, so she asked him when he would be returning, convinced it would benefit him.

He just told her sometime soon, before mentioning he's already busy working on himself, though he couldn't give her examples of how he's managing to accomplish that.

She has no clue how to help her husband, and it's starting to wear her down. She adores her husband and would do anything to get him to feel better.

"I know he didn’t survive just to survive. I miss my fun, confident, life-loving man. I’m probably rambling at this point, but what do I do? Am I being selfish?" she wondered.

I can't speak from personal experience here, but a near-death experience is a complicated matter. I'm sure her husband is leaking emotions all over the place just from living through that alone.

She really has to give herself some grace, because she can't magically fix his anxiety and depression; he needs professional help in order to do that, and she should do everything possible to inspire him to go back to therapy.

One other thought I have is that it might make sense to get him involved in volunteer work to help him feel like he has a purpose and a meaning.

What advice do you have for her?

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