It’s so incredibly hurtful to find out the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with was only using you for their personal gain.
A woman on TikTok who goes by @ogborderline just found out that her husband used her for a green card, but meanwhile, she thought they were building a life together.
“So my marriage is ending, and I’m truly devastated. I knew it was coming, but I was in denial. So I was used for a green card,” @ogborderline explained in her video.
Her husband is from Nicaragua, and he did come to America legally; however, he needed a green card to remain in the country, so he set about securing one in a nefarious way.
Her husband had a history of unsuccessful relationships, but he told her that he just wasn’t compatible with those women. In fact, that was a lie; none of those girls could gift him with the green card he needed, but @ogborderline didn’t know that.
She says that she was willing to do absolutely anything to be loved, and since he love bombed her to no end back when they met, she fell for him.
She knew deep down what this man was doing to her wasn’t exactly right, but she felt good about how he was treating her, even though it was nothing but a charade.
“So, he love bombed me, he paid a bunch of my bills, he bought a new car….he traded his green card for material possessions…and that’s just so sweet of him, right? That’s so great of him,” @ogborderline went on to say.
“I thought we were building a life. I thought we were building assets, and building a life, and enjoying a good life. Um, but that was not the case.”
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“What he was actually doing was, ‘You got me this green card. I will give you these little trinkets, and then I’m going to leave you.’ He never intended to stay.”
She spent six years of her life posting on social media about how wonderful her husband was and how he was working so hard for their future.
It should have been a red flag to her that he never really talked about her on social media. After three years spent together, her husband obtained his green card.
He then began gaslighting her, and they argued a lot. During their last argument, which stemmed from him cheating on her, he threatened to move out. He did just that.
“He couldn’t bear to be the villain in his own story…he’s gone, and he’s not coming back, right? So, of course, a few times I have reached out begging for him to come back because I’m that pitiful,” @ogborderline continued.
“Um, and now I’m realizing that’s horrible for me. I should be moving on with my life, so I am. I have amped up my therapy, I have amped up support groups, I have secured a deposit on another apartment, I’m moving on.”
“…That does not erase the pain. I can find a new apartment, and I can change bank accounts, and I can do all of the things right. What I can’t do is drive down the street and see a restaurant we went to every week.”
There are so many things that remind @ogborderline of her husband. It’s hard for her to hear certain songs that make her think of him.
It’s difficult for her to sit on the couch where they watched all their TV shows together or be in the living room at all, since it’s where she fell in love with him.
It’s different than growing apart; her husband knowingly used her for six years and wasted her time for his own personal gain, which is the most difficult for her to overcome.
Here’s hoping that now that she’s free of this man, she will be able to find true love.
By Bre Avery Zacharski
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