It’s a sad reality that money does matter to some people. So, how would you feel if your partner’s parents suddenly stopped treating you like a deadbeat, only because they figured out your parents have money?
For a bit more than a year now, this man has been dating his girlfriend, and her parents have pretty much always treated him like a loser.
From the moment he met them, they were frosty. Her dad acted like he was a ghost, and her mom made digs about how he’s been trying to figure out his career.
His girlfriend’s older sister was the worst, though, because she joked to his face about how his girlfriend always dated guys who were more established in life.
“For context, I work in film production. The hours are weird, and unless you’re in the industry, it probably just sounds like I’m freelancing with no stability,” he explained.
“I honestly tried hard with them anyway. Helped set up family events, drove her grandparents to appointments once, bought thoughtful gifts, all that stuff. Still always felt like I was being quietly evaluated.”
“Then last month, everything changed literally overnight. Her dad suddenly starts inviting me golfing. Her mom keeps telling relatives how ‘driven’ I am. Her sister added me on LinkedIn out of nowhere and started asking questions about networking.”
He had no idea what had caused all of this, but then, when he got into a fight with his girlfriend, she unintentionally told him that her parents had discovered information about his mom and dad.
Namely, they learned that they’re rich. His dad owns a very successful construction business, and his mom is a surgeon. But instead of being happy about how his girlfriend’s family is treating him, he’s upset that they’re being so disgustingly fake.
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They aren’t even aware that he’s financially independent and that his parents don’t give him money. He purchased his own car, he pays for his rent, and his mom and dad don’t want to needlessly give him cash.
“But now every compliment from her family feels gross because I keep wondering if they would even respect me if my last name and background were different,” he continued.
“I brought it up to my girlfriend, and she got defensive immediately. She said I’m ‘overthinking it’ and that maybe they just needed time to warm up to me.”
“Maybe she’s right. But it honestly feels like they went from seeing me as some random guy to seeing me as a good investment.”
Well, his girlfriend’s family members are all shallow. I think he should keep his distance and just ignore them. His girlfriend is the only one who really matters here, because that’s the only person he’s dating.
As long as he feels like she values and respects him, who cares what her mom, dad, and sister think?
What advice do you have for him?
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