Trying to fix a marriage after an affair is hard enough, but it’s completely impossible when your spouse’s phone logs look like a cry for help.
How are you supposed to keep fighting for a relationship when your partner’s unfiltered instinct is to obsessively chase the person who almost ruined your family?
This 30-year-old man has spent the last five years married to his 30-year-old wife, but it hasn’t been all rainbows and unicorns for them.
Last year, he and his wife encountered a tough spot in their marriage, and things got so bad that they came close to separating.
“During that time, she had an ’emotional affair’ with a coworker. Basically, secret messages, meetups, dinner dates, etc. I caught all that, but never knew if it got to physical intimacy,” he explained.
“Eventually, we sort of patched things up and decided to stay together and work on ourselves and our relationship for our 5-year-old son. From what I know, they haven’t been talking since.”
“Recently, however, there have been instances where she gets very drunk and tries to call this coworker. Just 2 weeks ago, she came home very drunk, and I saw on her phone that she tried to call him 60 times. Thankfully, the guy doesn’t seem to be answering.”
Aside from his wife calling her coworker an insane number of times, it doesn’t look to him like they’re currently on speaking terms or contacting one another.
His wife claims that she can’t even recall why she called her coworker in the first place, and it’s no secret that he and his wife are miserable in their marriage.
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He admits that they have not put the work in to figure out where their problems are stemming from, which is why they aren’t happy.
“I know it’s still a difficult road ahead. However, I’m having trouble deciding if it’s still worth it. Would it be better to stay together?” he wondered.
“Is there even a point in trying to pursue repair if she’s probably still hung up on the other guy? What would be the better decision for our kid? I honestly don’t feel comfortable being with someone if they’re thinking about someone else.”
Look, I don’t even call my mom 60 times in a row when I need to reach her. I don’t care how many drinks his wife had; 60 calls is overkill, and definitely points to her wanting this guy more than him.
His marriage is over, and it’s time for him to face the music. He absolutely should not tolerate this nonsense, and no, it is never a good idea to stay together for your kid, since that only breeds resentment.
What advice do you have for him?
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