This past weekend, TikToker Madison (@madisonkm22) was supposed to go on a date, but it didn’t end up happening because the guy couldn’t come up with any plans for their date.
So, she matched with this guy on a dating app, and in the early stages of chatting, they realized they had both just moved to the same city about four and a half months ago.
Madison lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan, which is a city with plenty of places to go and activities to do. After a few days of talking, he asked her out.
She was free on the weekend because her travel plans had been canceled. However, he was apparently struggling to come up with date ideas.
“He had been saying things that kind of sounded like he didn’t really want to plan this, and that’s where I’m going to put the brakes on it because you asked me out, so I am not planning a date,” said Madison.
“Sorry, it’s not happening unless I asked you out. I’m not planning it. That’s just not how I roll.”
On the night before they were supposed to have their date, he texted her and asked to postpone it because he hadn’t been able to plan anything. He claimed that he didn’t know the town well enough.
It didn’t end there because he randomly texted her at noon one day to ask what she was doing. She told him that she was busy deep cleaning her home.
In response, he said that he was hoping she was doing nothing so that they could plan their date together. Of course, she refused to engage with him further.
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“I want so badly to go on dates and be in a relationship, but my self-respect is high enough for me not to settle for somebody who is not going to put any effort in,” Madison concluded.
In the comments section, many TikTok users expressed their thoughts on the situations and shared similar stories of their own.
“I’m a flight attendant. I never know what is going on in the town that I’m in. I use Google. I always find something to do, so that’s no excuse,” pointed out one user.
“This happened to me, and he straight up said, ‘Or, it’s a great opportunity for you to plan.’ I said okay, what do you have in mind, and he said walking. After a bad snowstorm, no sidewalks were clear. I hate it here,” commented another.
“Yup, I was messaging someone on Bumble for a while, and from the jump, we both laid out our goals and agreed to meet up. He even had me find a coffee shop, so I did, and his last message was ‘Tomorrow morning?’ and I said yes and asked what time, and I still haven’t heard from him,” added a third.
By Emily Chan
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