During the middle of a date, TikToker Amanda (@amandalmartinezz) got up and left the table. Now, she’s encouraging other women to do the same anytime their dates disrespect them.
Amanda is extremely upfront about what she wants and doesn’t want in a relationship. Her dating profile clearly states that she’s not looking for someone who is super religious, already has children, or wants children in the future.
Also, since many people either skim profiles or ignore them completely, she has an extra screening system in place.
“Every time I match with somebody, before I go on a date with them, I make us have a phone call, and I reiterate every single thing that’s on my profile because, you know, it’s 2026; people don’t read,” said Amanda.
So, when she matched with a guy on a dating app and met up with him at a restaurant, she assumed that he understood all her dealbreakers. But while they were waiting for their food, the topic of kids somehow came up.
Her date revealed that he actually had a child. Amanda was confused why he didn’t mention such crucial information before. The detail was not listed on his profile, and he didn’t acknowledge it on their phone call.
She immediately knew that there was no future for them. He tried to explain why he had withheld this fact from her. His main justification was that she wouldn’t have shown up on the date if he had told her about his kid.
In other words, he understood her boundary perfectly. He just decided it didn’t apply to him.
Amanda was irritated and excused herself to the restroom. After she walked out of the bathroom, she found the server and asked for her check. Then, she sat back down at the table without saying anything to her date.
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When the server brought the check to her, he asked her what was going on. She told him that she was leaving because he had disrespected her boundary.
Finally, she got up and left him sitting at the table alone. In the comments section, everyone applauded her decision.
“He also lied, thinking that he could trap you. That once you got there, you would, at a minimum, see the date through. Proud of you! I wish when I was younger/still in the dating scene that I wasn’t so concerned about being nice,” wrote one user.
“I used to tell them that if they showed up and lied, I will leave. So, you had every right. Withholding information is lying,” commented another.
“Huge congrats for both standing your ground and your boundaries, and for not just ghosting and blocking the dude, but for actually communicating that you’re leaving and why,” praised a third.
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