If you made out with someone whom you later learned had a partner and two kids, would you tell their partner that they cheated, or keep quiet?
One Friday, this woman attended a festival in her home city and ended up running into one of her old friends. They lost touch, and she hadn’t seen him in seven years. He was part of a friend group that was close to her ex, which is why she stopped hanging out with all of them.
Anyway, she ended up kissing this guy passionately. They walked away from the crowd, there was a bit of touching, and he told her that he had always found her attractive.
“I went home and didn’t think much of it. Like it was fun and he is good looking, but I didn’t really feel super excited about him. I had no plan to do anything more with it,” she explained.
The following day, which was Saturday, she went back to the festival and didn’t see him. A day later, she decided to go on Facebook and look him up.
They are still friends on there, and she was horrified to see that his girlfriend posted that she had given birth the day before! And it’s their second kid together!
She knows this girl because he was dating her seven years ago. She even really liked this girl. She keeps thinking about what to do, and it’s not like she’s interested in pursuing him.
She actually finds him revolting after finding out that he’s not single and was happy to make out with her like that. She also feels grossed out with herself, but she thinks he’s more to blame.
She truly didn’t know he was still with his girlfriend, and she had no clue that she was on the brink of giving birth. But she didn’t say anything to this girl and chose to keep quiet.
“My reasoning is that she literally just gave birth, they have small children, and I don’t want to be the person who drops this on her right now,” she added.
“I also do not want to be seen as someone who helped ruin a family, even though I know he is the one who chose to cheat. But I just don’t want my name on this.”
“Part of me thinks that if he is capable of doing this while his girlfriend was about to have their child, he will probably give her other reasons to reevaluate the relationship later, when she has more capacity to deal with it. But I also feel like maybe she deserves to know, and maybe I am only making excuses to protect my own reputation, and because I don’t want to deal with it.”
She’s left wondering if she’s a jerk for not alerting this girl to the makeout session with her boyfriend.
No, she’s a jerk for failing to tell this poor girl! She needs to know like yesterday. If she’s so worried about protecting her own reputation, she must know someone who is still friends with this girl, and she can talk to them and have them relay the message.
But everybody deserves to know if they have been cheated on, so staying silent is the wrong answer.
What do you think?
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