This 28-year-old woman recently met a 32-year-old guy, and they wound up bonding over their passions– including hiking and other kinds of outdoor adventures.
She thinks that the guy is sweet, too, and believes that they get along really well.
“I enjoy discussing [things] with him, and we have a lot of fun together,” she said.
“I feel like I am with a member of my family when I am with him, and the attraction is through the roof!”
However, there is one main problem: the new guy she’s seeing is not ambitious whatsoever.
Right now, she earns nearly three times more than the guy– who is a hiking guide taking home a salary that is just barely above minimum wage.
And for the moment, she claims that the guy’s current situation is fine. But whenever she asks him about his career and overall life aspirations, she isn’t met with many– or really any– goals.
Instead, the guy tends to just be vague. He also states that his ambition is to just “be happy.”
“At least he has no debt,” she explained.
“But to be honest, I don’t even think that being in debt is that bad. It depends on what kind of debt.”
Anyway, she thinks that people can be ambitious, succeed in their fields of work, and be happy. That’s why the guy’s financial status– as well as his lack of desire for more in life– makes her pretty insecure.
Recently, the guy even received an offer for a promotion to a managerial position, which would have offered a significant pay increase. But he actually turned down the position and claimed he liked hiking more. Apparently, with the new job, he thought that he wouldn’t get to hike as much.
And she simply cannot understand why he did that. Right now, she is actually in a professional managerial position and has not had to give up hiking at all.
So, while she adores him, she’s not sure if their values totally align.
“I don’t want to stay with someone hoping they will become ambitious, and he deserves to be with someone unbothered by his financial status if this is who he is at his core,” she vented.
That’s why she’s trying to figure out if she should just end the relationship or handle the situation in a different way.
Does it sound like the guy is happy to lead a simple life? Is it worth it for her to try and change that? Or should she keep looking for a different partner since they aren’t compatible? What would you do?
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