Some people are the life of the party, while others burn the whole thing down and set the festivities on fire. She and her mom went on her bachelorette cruise, and by the end of it, she realized she had to call off her wedding to prevent her mom from destroying that for her, too.
This 28-year-old woman is set to get married to her 30-year-old fiancé soon. Her mom very generously said she wanted to take her on a cruise for her bachelorette trip.
So, it was her, her 32-year-old sister, her mom, and her two bridesmaids, who are 28. It was supposed to be a ton of fun, but her mom ruined the entire vacation.
On the first night and every night thereafter, her mom got blackout drunk, screamed, offended other passengers, and humiliated them all to no end.
It basically became a babysitting expedition for her mom, since she caused drama wherever she went, which kept them all on edge.
Her mom met a jewelry salesperson on the cruise ship who said he would give her mom an amazing deal if she came to his store, which was on the island they visited last.
She was convinced it was a scam, but her mom was infatuated. On the last day of the cruise, they got off to walk around the island when her mom saw a skincare vendor and got distracted.
She tried to keep her mom on task, but her mom wanted to shop, so they said they would meet her at that jewelry store when she was done.
“My sister and bridesmaids wait, then go check on her. They find her in the skincare shop, where the rep is on the phone with her credit card company, forcing through a ~$2K charge,” she explained.
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“I step in to get her out, and she loses it—full rage mode, screaming, ‘Help! They’re hurting me! Call the cops!’ on the street. It was chaos. One bridesmaid de-escalates, but at that point, we’re done. We’d put up with so much; we walked away to salvage the day at the beach (we’d missed the previous island’s beach time because of her earlier antics).”
“Back on the ship, my sister and a bridesmaid get pulled aside by security: Mom filed a report claiming we abandoned/threatened her. They warn that any more ‘incidents’ means cops at the port. She gets moved to a new cabin. Trip ruined, I was devastated.”
They finished the cruise, and later on, it hit her that she could not have her mom in her wedding at all because of how dramatic and insane she acted on their vacation.
Her mom was paying for an enormous part of her wedding, but she had to pull the plug. She and her fiancé ultimately canceled their fancy wedding and said they would elope.
She emailed her loved ones a short note saying they called off the wedding, but they’re still going to get married. She kept it straight to the point and didn’t provide any details.
Her fiancé’s mom wasn’t happy and wanted to say they’re postponing, not canceling, but she put her foot down and said she’s no longer having a wedding.
Her fiancé’s mom sneakily went behind her back and tacked on a note to her surprise bridal invitation email, stating they were postponing the wedding.
“Now, [my] fiancé’s family thinks it’s a minor hiccup, and my side knows the truth. [My] fiancé’s mom insists that ‘postponed’ is kinder and avoids questions,” she added.
“Mom is excusing her behavior, saying my sister made her act crazy and coming up with the [wildest] excuses, saying we made her buy us a bunch [of stuff], all not true (yet caused all this over her 2k skincare purchase….?). She has not said a thing to me.”
“Apparently, she’s fine without going to the wedding, and she’s going to put all her energy into our cousin’s new baby/going to plan a baby shower (some friends say canceling the whole wedding over one trip is extreme, but they weren’t there).”
She’s left wondering if she’s wrong for canceling the wedding because of her mom, and for being angry at her fiancé’s mom for not respecting her wishes.
As someone who had a few in-laws try to ruin my wedding that I knew would try to pull something, no, it’s never a bad idea to cancel a pricey event you know a loved one will wreck for you.
Her mom is too chaotic to let loose at a wedding, and who wants their guests to remember a parent’s bad behavior as the highlight reel?
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