A wedding ring is meant to symbolize unbreakable love and commitment to your partner. So how would you feel if your spouse took theirs off and admitted they weren’t sure if t to leave you or not?
This woman has spent the last six years married to her husband, and a bit more than two months ago, she was seven months pregnant.
At that exact time, her husband woke up one day and quit wearing his wedding ring. Of course, she set out to get to the bottom of why this happened.
“After prying it out of him, he told me that he didn’t know if he wanted to leave me or not, and that he was not happy when I told him I was pregnant with our second baby,” she explained.
“Now that I’m a few weeks away from having our baby, he told me he sees nothing with me, he wants to make the best decisions for our ‘kids,’ which we already have a two-year-old who is amazing, and I’m about to have another boy…. I feel so guilty for all the sadness that this baby has felt.”
She has begged her husband not to leave her throughout these past few weeks, which makes her feel pitiful. She’s worn out and worried about what the future holds.
Having to experience another birth all alone is terrifying to her. Also, she really struggled with her firstborn and postpartum, following an emergency C-section.
“He claims that we need to heal ourselves separately in order to be happy, but clearly, I can tell that he checked out months ago and doesn’t want to be a part of my life,” she said.
“How am I supposed to invite him into the delivery room when he can’t even stand to be around me or talk to me? Claiming he’s making all of these decisions ‘for the boys.’ And I’m not part of that equation.”
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In her heart of hearts, she’s aware that she has to abandon any hope she has of things with her husband ultimately working out. Especially since her husband has said and done some things in the last two months that she finds unforgivable.
So, here she is all alone, and her husband hasn’t once asked to feel their baby kick in her belly. She simply never pictured that her second pregnancy would turn out this way, and she would be dumped, left to be a single mom.
She’s been through so much with her husband and was happy to be there through thick and thin for the last decade. But now, they’re roommates, living in the same house, leading separate lives.
“I know postpartum, it’s going to hurt me even more if this is how I feel right now, to feel like I don’t exist in my own home or to the person I thought would love me forever,” she continued.
“But I’ll need someone to help me with our two-year-old, and the thought of losing time with my first baby because I’m gonna be taking care of a newborn kills me already, and now he will be with his dad instead of around me as a family.”
“How do you just move on and stop grieving the family you thought you were gonna have growing up…??” I have somewhat of a support system, but four weeks from my due date, I feel so embarrassed having to tell my family and friends that this is what’s been going on and that my own husband doesn’t wanna be with me anymore when I’m about to have another baby.”
She’s left feeling humiliated, lonely, and flooded.
As embarrassed as she is, the first thing she has to do is tell her loved ones what’s going on so she can get that support she so desperately needs right now. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Next, she should ask another family member to be present in the delivery room with her, not her husband. He lost out on his opportunity for that.
Her husband has unquestionably abandoned her, and she needs to seek a divorce. She also should make him move out of the house if she can, as living with him is making it all worse.
What advice do you have for her?
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