For the first time ever, TikToker @ellanxtdo0r was catfished on a date. The other night, she went out with a guy she matched with on two different dating apps. They quickly made plans to meet up.
On the day of the date, she started thinking that it wasn’t going to happen because he hadn’t reached out to her at all to confirm their plans.
About four hours before their date, she ended up messaging him to make sure their date was still on. He didn’t respond, so she messaged him again two hours later. He still didn’t reply.
“I’m actually tired of this being the trajectory of my life right now and with dating, so I’m going to take myself out regardless,” said @ellanxtdo0r.
“If he shows up, I’m actually going to ignore him because he should have confirmed.”
An hour before the date was supposed to be, he finally texted her back to confirm he would be there. She arrived before him and waited for him at a table. They had planned to go bowling.
She faced the door, watching and waiting for him to show up. She didn’t see him at all. Then, she made eye contact with a man standing there, and he ended up being her date.
She was very taken aback because he didn’t look much like the pictures on his profile. The pictures did not appear to be recent. In all his pictures, he had long hair that was tied up in a bun, but when she saw him in real life, he had a haircut. That was just one example of how different he looked.
It was disappointing, but she carried on with the date because she didn’t want to be rude. After she got over the initial shock, she ended up having a good time. He was really nice and asked her a lot of questions about herself. However, he did talk a little too much for her taste.
“So, this is the first time that someone has shown up in a way that they did not depict themselves to be on the app,” said @ellanxtdo0r.
“I tried so hard to lean into it, but then the more he talked, I was already irritated.”
This date actually went well compared to previous dates, but she can’t get over being catfished. Now, she’s paranoid about meeting up with anyone else in the future, for fear that they will present themselves inaccurately.
In the comments section, many TikTok users sided with @ellanxtdo0r and chimed in with their thoughts about catfishing and dating.
“Catfishing is a red flag. It’s not about being shallow about his looks. It’s about someone being honest with you from the start,” stated one user.
“It’s deception, and it’s hard to see past when you first meet someone because you don’t know anything else about them,” pointed out another.
“Something similar happened to me, and I just couldn’t do it. It was to the point that I was embarrassed to be seen with him. That was my first time realizing that attraction really is important,” commented a third.
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